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Meeting new people and dating is terrible as it is, but when you're a cannabis consumer, it's even worse. Say you're on a first date and everything is going very well. You have genuine chemistry and a good rapport with your date, you have the same taste in movies and TV shows, and then you mention you like to smoke a joint or two after work. Suddenly, everything gets awkward because cannabis still has a negative stigma in some circles of society. If only there was a way to meet singles who share your passions.
Lucky for you, there are unique dating sites for just the occasion. While Tinder and Bumble are good resources to make a date with someone who you find attractive, it's just really hard to find others who share your enthusiasm for cannabis. Believe it or not, there are a bunch of dating sites out there that cater to a friendly lifestyle where you can meet singles who will not judge you for the recreational or medicinal use of marijuana.
You might even meet that special someone who wants nothing more than to share a spliff with you. Here are 10 of the best dating sites for cannabis enthusiasts and friendly singles looking for love:. We're using cookies to improve your experience. Click Here to find out more. It promotes unity and a judgment-free space for the friendly to meet and come together to experience the highs and lows of love. The social network touts its ease-of-use and wide user base, while it claims to be the 1 social and dating app in the cannabis industry.
The app is very easy to use and set up with a Facebook account. Once inside of the app, your Facebook photo is already uploaded with the option to add four more. You scroll through other users on the app who are in your area and you simply give them a "High There! You just have to approve them to actually start chatting back-and-forth. People on High There! Free, with in-app purchases See Details. Launched in , Singles boasts that it is "a place to meet single people in the cannabis community looking for love.
Unlike traditional dating sites, Singles puts cannabis front and center in finding matches without any judgment or prejudice. However, the big drawback is the dating site features two separate platforms for desktop and mobile, which means you have to sign up for both with two different logins and set-up processes. On the app, sign up is pretty easy with your Facebook account.
In addition, both platforms seem to be riddled with inactive profiles without photos or bios. Navigating the app is much easier than the website, but there are additional channels like "groups" and "forums" to interact with the whole community instead of just a single user at a time.
If Singles managed to merge the two, then they might have an interesting dating site on their hands for cannabis users. The dating website is completely free to use. My Mate It's not totally free like some other services, but My Mate does feature some matchmaking tech. The company considers themselves as "The Cupids of Cannabis," so they created a platform for weed users to feel warm and comfortable without judgment. MyMate is actually a more "traditional" dating site than others in the cannabis industry.
Perhaps the promise of cannabis and smoking buddies is enough to make people come back and use the service again and again. The app, on the other hand, is a little bit less intuitive. You still get the same functionality with the app as you did with the site, but it seems that the app can't refine matches based on location. I was looking for matches within 15 miles of my location and the app gave me matches who lived more than 2, miles away. There was also an option to find all members on the app, along with your search preferences.
My Mate is free to download for Android and iOS and also includes in-app purchases for credits for upgrades. The first 65 credits are free with the pay scale listed below: Date Friendly It isn't free and doesn't have an app, but Date Friendly does have events, games, and even job listings.
That information is already disclosed once you join the site and start meeting people. The dating site is a welcoming environment for the lifestyle with members who partake in cannabis for recreational and medical purposes. The site is also a resource for finding new jobs and works as a sort of classifieds page for the community. If marijuana is a big part of your life, then DateFriendly.
Setting up a profile is pretty easy. Your options here are either companionship or romance. Then you select options for your occupation, income, education level, and marijuana habits.
Unfortunately, there is no mobile app available. You can also pay for five months of access and get seven months for free. OkCupid OkCupid lets you search using terms like "," and everyone's on it. Free A-List 1 month: The tried and true dating site has been matching singles online since Most singles are on OkCupid, so it makes sense that if you want to cast a wide net to find other like-minded singles then this dating site is for you.
In fact, after you break up with someone, one of the first apps you should download to get over them is OkCupid. However, unlike most dating sites, OkCupid has a really good search feature that makes it really easy to find the friendly folks on there. The signup process on OkCupid is quite long. The more questions you answer, the better chance you have of matching with someone special. OkCupid is free to download and use.
However, the dating site has a premium service called "A-List" where you can access more features like "ghosting," refined searches, and no ads. The price scale is below: Zoosk Zoosk has a large user base and the ability to save searches, but has a lot of fake or inactive profiles, and is pricey. Zoosk started out as a Facebook application in , but spun off into its own platform and mobile app. The dating site boasts more than 35 million singles spread throughout over 80 countries.
Instead of filling out long and tedious questionnaires about your personality and potential match, Zoosk simply takes the information from your Google or Facebook account and plugs it into your online dating profile, along with your photo. Zoosk caters to almost all communities by keeping their user base big and robust.
Zoosk offers customized searches that feature options for "smokes regularly," which is a strong indication for consumption. However, while Zoosk makes it easy to start a profile and search for matches, the online dating app is notorious for the amount of fake and inactive users.
Finding your perfect match on Zoosk might be easy, but actually meeting or chatting with them might be a different story. Zoosk is free to use and download, but you need a premium subscription to search, message, and really do anything more than browse potential matches. Highly Devoted Highly Devoted takes a personalized approach, interviewing you several times to help find your match.
It's cool, but it will cost you. Joining and filling out a form: Free Participation in personal matchmaking: You get a quote after filling out the form See Details. Founded by cannabis consultant and life coach Molly Peckler, Highly Devoted is a personalized matchmaking and dating service that caters to "smart, passionate, classy cannabis consumers who are tired of all the messy swipe apps and dating sites.
The website touts, "If cannabis is an important part of your life, your relationship must reflect that.
Highly Devoted is not an ordinary online dating service. The service is interested in building your confidence and enhancing your life. Highly Devoted also offers cannabis socials and mixers that are aimed at upscale professionals in their network and database. Joining Highly Devoted is free.
You have to fill out a Google Form for a consultation and screening. Afterwards, the service will give you a quote to continue. Hinge If you're looking for a relationship, Hinge's 3-month free trial should tell you what you need to know. While there are plenty of more "classic" dating apps out there that will work well for those in the cannabis community, Hinge separates itself from the bunch as the only "relationship app" that matches singles. Hinge re-launched in as a very low-pressure dating app that focuses on fun information and photos instead of a swiping left or right model.
In fact, Hinge profiles resemble an Instagram feed with fun tidbits about you in between your photos. When you match with someone, Hinge prompts recipients with a "Your Turn" feature designed to keep the conversation going to decrease the possibility of "ghosting" someone — something that happens far too frequently on dating apps. Hinge wants singles to build relationships instead of hook ups or something casual.
The Hinge app is designed for more interaction and engagement than any other other dating app. Hinge encourages you to scroll through entire profiles before you make a decision to "like" or "dislike. A predilection for weed led to the percentage of likes to decrease to 35 percent for those 40 or older. Hinge is free to download and all new members get a three-month free trial. Afterwards the app will push you to subscribe to continue.
Free Membership with perks: Believe it or not, but Plenty of Fish is one of the most popular dating sites among singles with over ,, members from all around the world. Singles enjoy the site because it hits a broad range of lifestyles from gay friendly to platonic friendships. Just about anyone looking for any type of companionship, friendship, or relationship can find it on Plenty of Fish.
Although it takes a little more than 20 minutes or so to set up a profile with its extensive question personality assessment, Plenty of Fish is touted for its ease of use when navigating through the website and free features that most dating services ask for payment, such as messaging, matching, testimonials, favorites, and overall access. Plenty of Fish is a good alternative to OkCupid and Zoosk. One of the best features on Plenty of Fish is its robust searching capabilities.
So changing your own style is plenty hard enough without attempting to change your partner. This is not my area of expertise, so I refer you to the aforementioned Attached book.
Both parties are auditioning for one another. This is not a formula for two people connecting successfully. That said, there are ways to make it even more likely that your first date is your last. You can be more interested in talking to other guys, and give all of them your business card. Do these things actually happen? To me, yes, and all in the last month.
And you know little about your compatibility after one date especially if it goes spectacularly well. Here, allow me to quote myself. I always make a point of asking women in happy relationships — married or not — about how they first met their partners. Keep your cell phone off and out of view, give him your full attention, and be interested. There is a certain class of men who are chiefly interested in RELDs — relationships of extremely limited duration.
If you meet him in Belize on a 3-day weekend you have specifically set aside for a fling, then fine — have fun with it. Some players are looking for the quick and easy score. Giovanni Giacomo Casanova are motivated by the thrill of conquest, pursuing persistently until they get their trophy. This is not a formula for making you happy. If he disappears, consider yourself lucky. Like with crack cocaine or polio, when it comes to players, prevention works best.
To summarize some of the highlights of what we discussed: Sometimes, you really did pick your nose or rhapsodize too enthusiastically about your machine gun collection on the first date, so he legitimately ran.
What you can do is to get your own house in order. First of all, be good company. The Tao of Dating , especially Chapters 8 and onward, cover that extensively. You can actually get the audiobook version for free at Audible. This means you are potentially interested in forging a better version of yourself, and also have one hellva attention span. Merely understanding information , however, does not necessarily translate into transformation.
Whatcha gonna do about it, lady? In the end, everyone that you meet is an opportunity to practice being more loving. And authentic happiness comes not from what you can get out of the world but what you can contribute to it. Keep those two principles in mind, and your love life — heck, all of your life — can only get better every day.
Ali — so how about if your relationship of 10 months is going this direction? I am actively working on becoming less anxious, as that is causing some problems with other relationships as well.
We both want this to work — his only complaint is that I complain, as unfortunate as that sounds. Enough with the games. Why do we have to pretend and decieve and mirror a guy? Gezzzz guys just be straight up with what they want and no one gets hurt or offended or confused.
Honesty is the key, not some bullshit game. Get a real job. I actually had the pleasure of confirming one of your reasons a while back. I got a text about months after the fact from the guy I dated briefly 4 dates, no sex who ghosted me.
I was surprised that he took the time to explain why he went pouf in the first place. He explained that he was simultaneously seeing another woman from across the pond that he was mildly obsessed with and he went off to pursue that with gusto.
From my perspective since I am a Tao of dating convert , my approach to dating is similar to that of a student of the men I date. I sit, listen, watch and learn. So, this just served as confirmation that my instincts about him from the beginning were spot on.
It was actually very empowering. Now I had an explanation. So, in the end, it always goes back to being ruthlessly honest with yourself. Most likely, the reasons why men go pouf have nothing to do with us.
I know you disapprove of my last statement Dr. Ali but I actually love Tinder and Bumble and have met some amazing men there. What am I missing? Anyway, I do believe I understand what Dr.
Ali meant with the statements about letting a man chase. If a man is actively chasing you, i. Would you extend that advice to men? The issue I have is that this paradigm tends to be one sided. Women are asked to date less appealing and often less suitable men whereas it is considered perfectly fine that men will only date really hot women hot, of course, being subjective.
Why is that men are given the leeway to forgo a second date based purely on appearances, whereas women are told to give him another and another chance? I have had far too much experience with this paradigm to have much patience for it. Even if initially, he did not really find him attractive. And why so much focus on physical appearance anyways??
I think the most important is how he makes you feel. You could date a super hot guy and he makes you feel like crap. Physicall appearance is not everything. Met a guy over a year ago while taking a break from a long term relationship, we had a instant connection and we dated for maybe 2 months. Then, I decided to get back together with my then boyfriend.
This summer fling kept texting me every couple of months to check in on me and see if I was still with my boyfriend. Time was finally right for us to get together. We dated for 5 months. About 4 months into it, I asked him to get off the dating sites, even though we had discussed taking our relationship slow, which I was fine with, just not the dating sites.
Was I wrong to be upset over the sites? I truly got my hear vested with this guy and he broke it and will no longer talk to me because I got mad about it and told him it was BS! Is this just a typical player?
I am so knew to the dating scene and I really want to wrap my head around all of this so I can move on. He has to arrive at the decision on his own. Lean back and mirror him, observe his actions and act accordingly. Maybe he has trouble trusting u especially since u came back to him on the rebound and he accepted. Maybe he wants to keep his options open in case u bail again. He seems like a decent guy it is u that needs to sort urself out tbh.
What am I doing wrong?? Seems like Love is getting harder to find without instructions. Oooh Diana, sorry about what you are going through. Its smtg subconsciously sucking away my enthusiasm. Met a guy online. Chated for 2 weeks. I know we were great before we even met went on a date. It was so special. Second date he came to my house. He cooked, we hung out for 7 hours. We left the date with another one planed for the following week. I got very comfortable with him and I think I killed the chase.
Neither of us contacted the other. Should I contact him? Too much too soon …by third date you should still just be going out for dinnercor movies.. I always go by saying those who rush in normally rush out.. Hi I met my husband on a dating site 9 years ago to recently find out he never came off them, hid them for 9 years!! Went on dates slept with people ect……..
I suggest you find someone from somewhere other then a dating site lol. I will come out with you for drinks if you xx sorry you went through this but please be glad you found out now and not 9 years later. I feel like we have the same avoidant attachment side with maybe a hint of clingyness from my part.
Just a hint, lol. So about 2 weeks about my boyfriend broke up with me on the weekend of our 1 year anniversary and said he was no longer interested. We just got back from visiting his parents and that visit went amazing.
I just dont know why he did it. He said either we would break up or get married. Why did this happened? We had more of a misunderstanding than anything and he thought I was the one being aloof! I decided to post this, because maybe sometimes, we just overthink things and tell ourselves stories based in no reality. Hang in there for those seeking some guidance, and thank you for your insight Dr.
I know this dating stuff is about as personal as things get, but the less personally you take this haphazardness of modern communication, the better you will do. Ali, or anyone reading this, please help me as soon as possible. A guy messaged me on Facebook, we went back and forth, exchanged numbers, then met in person.
We have a lot in common. We went on three more dates the next week. After date three, his texting pattern changed. I panicked I guess and asked if he still wanted to see me. A couple days went by, no texts. He said he probably can but has been sick. I said ok, what do you have in mind. He said idk yet.
So I said ok, i understand, so maybe some other time. A week went by, no texts. I had something to drink one night and texted him about it.
Thinking of you cuz just drank some whisky. I said something else. They are over protective. On our last date, he talked about taking me fishing in spring and to take pictures and start a band with his friend.
He wanted to cuddle, and probably kiss. We never did either. He told me many times but always said he had fun. Did I maybe flip the chase? If I did, can I reverse it?
Do i sound desperate or clingy? Do I need text him again? Do I wait it out? Does he just need a break? If you had to guess where it went wrong, if it went wrong, where did it? Is it hopeless or am I paranoid?
What should I do? So I will try again. Here in Denver there were many ladies pictures and profiles that were no longer actually using the site. The selection for me to consider was very small in number. The company tried make it seem lively by E-mailing me if a lady in another state even viewed my profile. This to me was meaningless and intrusive. They do have accessible customer service which i appreciated. They pro rated my account and did refund a portion of my money, which I appreciated.
Again, they have been accused of keeping expired profiles up to try to make it appear that their membership is larger than it actually is. At full price, they are pricey although they do have some price drops.
I could not make it work for me. Someone viewing my profile every other week from another state just does not do it for me. Maybe if you broadened your horizons some and ask for Some that are older are young at heart and think maybe 20 years younger than their chronological age… Never say never, besides age is really only a number.
You can find chemistry where you may least expect to find it. Look at Donald Trump, his wife is like 20 years or so younger than he is. I know a guy who is 16 years older than his wife, and another couple where the women is Have neighbor married to a man 7 years younger than she is, so it must work. From some of the comments, the results and frustrations of either male or female are mirror images!
I have only been dating about 4 years and divorced for 15, everyone has a different schedule as to when they are ready for a myriad of reasons. It never occurred to me that may be looked upon as a negative, after separation and divorce work, friends and family were the routines that helped me find myself again. A necessary step I think to proceed moving to another relationship without hauling a ton of baggage! Always something new to learn.
Many times I have thought of giving up, this is so hard a direct opposite to the first time when everyone you met was attractive and ambitious! I do think that someone you share experiences with ages gradually in your eyes and not like my situation of suddenly realizing while I was just living, everyone else had gotten old, LOL! And yes, I did take a good look in the mirror, I am old too! Like everyone, I never expected to be looking or needing a new relationship. Many men my age definitely bought into the cliche of as long as you are trading in, you might as well go for the newest model!
It is logical from their standpoint but will not sustain a lasting relationship when it is a onesided one. So I continue to look, just as everyone for that one needle.
Maybe they are out there and maybe not but I am content with where I am and no regrets on taking my time. I would only consider a younger man on a temporary relationship…that one made me giggle! So maybe older men are looking for a younger woman in the same aspect, they just think it sounds better if they say they are looking for a relationship. Hello Gail, My name is William, I will love to know more about you. Please send me an email to enable us get to know each other.
I live in Indiana. I hate those jerks and thankful that I learned with reading about their devious manipulations.
I truly believe there must not be a way to escape this situation. Heck, I took a several years break and it has just become worse. I hate the lonliness, feeling somewhat helpless and hate that at this stage in life we are having to deal with these CREEPS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Getting to try online dating for the first time,whom ever interested in getting to know each other,kindly respond and we can take it from there,hoping to hear from someone soon.
The free dating sites are better since most of the profiles in the fee-based sites were placed by non-payers just so they could conduct profile searches. Very cluttered, redundant automatic responses like photo, flirt etc etc.
Worst is that they let people post a profile with no picture. Takes a lot of time to delete the duds. So not worth it! I am from Uganda and I am 58 years. I have visited some of these sites but I have not received good response. I am sure so many women from Africa have painted a very back picture of Africans.
I am a decent woman in full time employment and I am just looking for a soul mate especially as we grow old we tend to get so lonely. I am looking for a mature gentleman whom I can laugh and share with. I enjoy listening to country music. I received responses from men who are younger than me and that is not what I was looking for. I tried reaching old men of my age but all of them want ladies who are between 18 — 25 years old.
Daphne I totally agree with you. I myself just turned 66 and looking between 60 to 70 but I was shocked the first time I saw a 64 yr man looking for 18 to 35 yr range and now I see it all the time. How they even consider that age. Compared to us they are looking for a child.
There is nothing wrong with being short. I am a real animal lover and have been a widow for 20 years. I just live alone with my furry babies who talk Husky. I live in So Ca and wish I was somewhere up in the mountains. I love pine trees. I am a polite lady who believes in God and has a very good relationship with J. It sucks being alone but so be it. Maybe someday I will meet someone who likes the outdoors as much as I do.
Love long walks on the beach with an intelligent man to talk to. I am looking for that special best friend that I had with my husband years ago when we were young. No drinking for me or drugs just a good lady that has good manners.
If you live anywhere by me send me a note and maybe we can get to be good friends and who knows. Maybe one or two of my fur babies. Huskies are very beautiful and talkers. But so am I. Good luck in your search for that good best friend. My name is William, I will love to know more about you. Where are the older gentlemen?.
We seniors can be lonely and need someone to be with. For me that would be a GOD send. I would absolutely devote my time to making a man that wanted to be with me feel special, wanted, needed and loved. I hope that happens. Good luck with whatever you are seeking. Oh, I must add that I am male.
For females dating sites in general are quite different. Some of the messages, I am told, are lewd or just plain poorly written. However, they also receive numerous messages from gentlemen like myself. Most women because they are in demand on these sites, will ignore the vast majority of messages, regardless of their quality. Men will be scrutinized and rejected more than in regular every day life. That said, it seems none of the sites really have you in mind. They practice deception to gain your money and that is their only bottom line.
Now as a male you can be persistent and you may be fortunate. I met a lady and dated her this afternoon. It was nice and has potential. I did not give up with all the illogical rejections I have to experience. As women are less in numbers on these sites the sky is the limit for what they want.
I am 9 years younger than her and I am in top shape. You must be a tall man or it becomes even less hopeful. I am average height so I am aware of this. No guarantees, little logic. I would not recommend it. They are only about bringing in money.
They are not service oriented. Hey, curious to know what happened with the 74 yr. If she is affectionate, can still make you happy and feel good, if you have any chemistry with her then what does age have to do with it anyway. Women 60 and over are usually lonely and are willing to stay with you for the duration of whatever it takes, until you or she passes on.
I am interested in a man between say 60 and That is a 15 year span of time. They have a 10 year old son remember. AGE is only a number and beauty is in the eyes of the beholder…Live and learn. I have was married for 17 yrs and divorced now for two years. I had done a decent profile with decent pictures and verified myself on some of them. I contacted a few people who were nothing like their pictures. I discovered that alot of women like to post pictures that make them look 15 to 20 years younger then they get upset when we men are surprised when we actually meet them.
Even though I am gainfully employed and a retired veteran, I still cannot afford to travel to Europe or extensive traveling by plane.
For those who are tired of no responses on dating sites, you can try the meetup. I would just like to express that as far as the traveling aspect that you mentioned, I think for example traveling to France or Eastern European countries is something that should be held for later on as a relationship is extremely serious, possibly marriage, that being said I think it would be a we thing and it would be the responsibility of the relationship to have the financial means to do such things, otherwise I would think traveling locally would be more than sufficient.
There are plenty of places and things to see within the United States. I personally prefer those who are more my height then having to look straight up to the ceiling or crawl up on the latter for a kiss, you cannot change your height nor can you change your age, I personally have come across The opposite where only men seem to want very tall women.
I applaud you for trying these dating sites, I believe it takes a lot of confidence and alot of guts. And saying this I would ask you a question what dating site or sites would you highly recommend versus others? Suppose everyone has a criteria-getting to know someone first, should be first. I have taken a break from the online dating scene.
Seems like at times I keep attracting women who I later find out are married. Needless to say I am taking a break and focusing on me. Anyway whenever I feel ready to date again, you the online sites I would prefer are Match.
Too far for me. For Austin, Tx there are too many young college folks here so it can limit choices for mature men like me. As a fellow male you make perfect sense. However, with numbers in their favor, women want it to be just perfect, as they are all entitled. They want an alpha male to tower over them, their mythical hero should be protective of them. I tried internet dating. Could not appeal to attractive ladies.
I did meet and date some nice ladies but they were not attractive. They still had their choice of men it seemed. I am now going to save myself the grief and remain alone. Probably not, cannot count on it, but maybe , just maybe, I will meet a lady by chance or someone will introduce me to someone.
I have to say not all women are that way. There are some of us that are good. When I first start seeing someone, I think he should pay but after getting to know him I am willing to pay. It is hard to know when to offer to and when not.
Some men are offended by the woman paying. After reading all the comment on this site , I dont think I want to try the dating site..
I have a lot of love in my heart for the right person. I feel it is very important to keep the romantic fire going in a relationship. If you think we can get along kindly get intouch on jjderickk at g mail..
Hey Derick, what state do you currently live in? And what is your age, and what age women were you or are you looking for? Let me know your status if you want to. If not, I hope you found the women you wanted and are happy. Write me on here and I will reply WKR. It seems that experts are out there rating dating sites. However, their flowing reviews are vastly different than those who actually have experienced the sites and used them. However, we know that people who do reviews tend to be critical and maybe not bother to review if something works well.
As a male, and I am 64, these sites are difficult to have success with. A fellow can initiate numerous messages and for the most part, be ignored. Ladies , again, due to the imbalance, hear from numerous men, and therefore are in total control.
The ladies look nice and there are many seemingly on the site, but men will overwhelmingly be ignored. I tried it and would never consider it again.
The profiles may be old or fabricated. I am finishing up a 6 month membership with them. The rates are reasonable. Again, for every 15 ladies you contact with thoughtfully crafted, sincere messages, expect to hear back from ladies.
Then , due to the competition, communication with a lady can very easy come to a halt with you wondering why this is so, where did she go? I did meet a couple of ladies from this site but disappointing considering my efforts. I have not tried it yet. However, I previewed the ladies on this site. They appear very nice, but I have seen that before. I did notice however, that quite a few of the ladies about 60 yrs.
Why is this so? Again, it points to the numerical imbalance favoring the ladies. I am financially and emotionally responsible. That said, the odds on dating sites count against me and make success a needle in a haystack. It is difficult for men and I am sure that females have their own issues such as security. In life, career, etc. I get along with ladies just fine. On dating sites, being ignored, lied to, deceived etc.
I tried match and it is a waste of time, talk about unrealistic. I thought we women as we get older must be the problem but those types of men, and there are plenty definitely have and are the problem. So dating sites may work for a few but for the most part I would say no. Phil, you sound really nice and sincere.
I disagree with you Phil. I have just started with these dating sites about a month ago and am already turned off by all the fake profiles. The men that I have corresponded with have not been anything to write home about. The last jerk and yes he was a jerk completely forgot that we had made plans to meet only two days after we talked.
When I sent him a text confirming, he responded with I completely forgot all about it. If he changed his mind, he should have been a big boy about it and been honest with me. Instead his reply made me feel awful. And this is a man in his 50s. I thought guys would have grown up by that age.
Well, probably not on these websites. I find the problem with many men.. They take pix with rumpled shirts.. Or their profile pix shows them far away.. I partially agree with you in most areas. I turned 72 in July and after a 46 year marriage, ending in his death, I finally put my self out there.
I dated a few, not so interesting men, and then I met the one. After 6 months I realized he has Alzheimer and his family moved him back home. Several months later I met a real heart breaker. We dated for 10 months and I fell head over heals in love with him only for him to go back to his ex-wife. You just have to week-out the fake, I guess. I think mine has run out and I just need to move on!!! You may be right, Joan…. No companionship, enjoyment of life with another.
I cannot speak for all males. They do not know about manners or how to properly respect women. Sorry you experience this. However, my being polite and honest may be setting myself up to be deceived, as ironic as that may sound. You seem pretty well educated in this area. Hi Phil I know how you feel. Locations would be nice here. We could stop wasting time with people from demographic areas that are out of reach.
Yes, I know, planes go everywhere, however, I need to be on land first: Where are you Phil? Hi Phil, We women also experience a degree of frustration with online dating as well. Why you ask women want , sex.
Where are you located at Phil?? I am Phil, a disillusioned fellow who tried internet dating. I have been honest with ladies but in a few instances have been met with deceit and fabrications. A lady tells me I seem like such a nice fellow but she has met someone she wants to give a chance to. They have had 3 dates. However, this lady, and it has happened twice to me, remains on 2 dating sites for months.
In both instances, I wish them well and say the fellow they have chosen is a lucky gentleman. I strongly believe they are just fabricating this new relationship that they mention to me.. Why would both of these ladies keep their profile up if their story were true? Honestly, I have heard other stories too. In regular life, I really do not encounter people being as deceptive, evasive, or inconsistent. I had the same done to me and I believe that telling you they met someone else is a way for some women to reject you nicely.
So they fabricate the story of meeting someone new. I know that many of these women connect with multiple males at once because it boosts their ego. I had connected with a few who would ask me a question and I would reply only to wait for them to respond for over an hour to answer each time due to them corresponding with other men. It does not make sense. Is there enough men like this floating around on dating sites, that a fellow like me is easily discarded.
I know how important aesthetics are on dating sites. I try to communicate with ladies who would be in my league. However, dating sites give the ladies the advantage. However, i do realize that ladies have issues regarding security, I do get that.
I assume you have found a women by now that was suitable for you and not a phony diva type that lied and sent you a fake photo and deceived you or gave you an excuse…I hope all is well. Otherwise you can contact me so we can chat. Write if you want and tell me about yourself, no fakeness here, just genuine conversation and no games. How old are you and what age were you or are you looking for? If you found someone, let me know, if not you can send me an e-mail…wkrhilly gmail.
As a 62 year old woman, I find it near to impossible to meet anyone even remotely within my area who ARE someone I would like to get to know better. I care nothing for one night stands, nor friends with benefits people. I just am not that type of person. I can do that myself. But a nice companion for dinners and movies would be nice. It seems however that men my age want someone in the bracket.
Who does one trust? At this point, after e harmony, Match. I totally understand your comments.. I paiid Our Time 6months met one man and after month talking.. I was so shocked after xoffee I never spoke to him again… So many years younger pics they post… Be honest post current pics.
Hey everyone I was on Our time 3 different times and all 3 times met great guys or so I thought the first only lasted a couple of months he wanted to be possessive. I have decided to reenter the dating game after 15 years of keeping silent and to myself with family. I just woke up one day and decided at 66, I want to meet a man that has similar likes and dislikes as me.
I have a small farm that I dearly love working on and grow all my food, including chickens. It is almost impossible to find a man that likes this sort of lifestyle, much less wants to be involved in it. The perfect partner for me would certainly be a small farmer that loves the soil and works it with love every day. He would also have to like salt water fishing because next to the soil that is a big love of mine as well. So it is not going to happen for me unless I take the time and pursue this in places where farmers and fishing are prevalent.
Therefore, I will begin to go to those farmer days and outings and I will spend lots more time at the beach fishing. If I meet someone special that is great. Good luck to everyone looking and be safe always. Hi Linda, thanks for your comment.
Linda I totally identify with what you said. In up state NY my options are almost non existent Love to fish be in the oods and grow things. As I read your comment,I felt a little ftustrated. I have the same comments about these sites as everyone else. I was on Farmers Only for several months and experienced much disappointment.
In my profile,I stated who and what I was and that I desired to connect with woman who enjoyef rural life. Truly believe most women on that site were looking for a dtugstore cowboy with a new shiny truck.
None of the women on Farmers say they wanted to meet a man with rural roots which I found rather odd. You just have to keep turning stones. BOB, where is your farm located, and what age women are you looking for or are you looking at all? What is your age? I love rural living and farm life. I am not as into that as I used to be years ago, but still like to cook and especially like to enjoy my food with somebody. It just taste better when there is somebody to enjoy it with. I know as a senior female I would never be able to find a man who is under 55 or I have been alone for almost 7 years.
My husband passed away due to lung failure and he was 64 at the time. I think age is only a number. SO, never say never. Send me an e-mail I you want to, would like to know about your rural life…wkrhilly gmail. Strange but unlike most comments here I have found the dating sites overwhelmingly populated by cougars. The 61 yr old female looking for 25 to 50 yr old men.
I no longer frequent any of them since most ladies never respond to any show of interest but keep coming back to view my profile but never leaving a message at all. One thing I am not looking for is more frustration in my life. Marsha Your message is exactly how i feel.
Still full time employed and self sufficient, divorced for over 12 years. Not interested in sleeping around. Just want companionship for events, listening to oldies music from the 70s, trips and just exchange experiences and laugh a lot. But looks like there are NO men going for that. Ive decided to just join cultural, gardening and volunteer groups where I can meet people face to face. However, this article is extremely honest and well written. You have to keep safe and keep playing.
Lots of people I know are now part of a twosome. Oh Really am new to all this i have also meet a lady that posted her old pictures when she was young. After reading some of the shared comments, I would like to add my two cents worth.
It does seem to be challenging to meet quality people for me -men that would like to have q good relationship with a good woman Their mouth or pen is moving. What is wrong with getting to know a person first? Finding out if you like each other enough to forsake others and try to see if you two can make a go of it? At our age we should have experience enough life to know what basically is negotiable vs is nonnegotiable. How about being comfortable with not only who you are, but where you are in life?
No, I am not talking about sitting all day in a rocker and playing dead. But , enjoying life with whatever disabilities, lumps bumps, etc. Now a days-there seems to be more inference on sex than anything else. Sex-when has that ever determine the value of any relationship? Whatever happen to wanting to get to know one another?
Which can lead to true friendship and companionship. Do you remember when you could talk to each other about everything and nothing-but still enjoying just being together? How about when you were looking across the room at each other , and sharing that special smile -that special look that said so much?.
Yet to others, it said nothing-but to you two ahhh-it was like a secret code that only the two of you knew. Well, Steve Harvey always says the 90 day rules applies to everyone.
Yes Dorene I agree with you as well. I love Steve Harvey and own both of his books on relationships. What he is saying makes a lot of sense. I was in a very bad marriage for 26 years that was hard for me to get out of as my ex was abusive in very many ways. Since I have been out in the dating world I find that everything seems to have changed. But after 26 years I was sure it would be.
When I left my ex and found a gentleman who truly was a gentleman and waited to approach me about being intimate. It may have not been the 90 days but it was a while and we dated for four years.
So now I hope that I can find someone who would at least give the relationship time instead of hopping in the sack. I see a psychologist because of my past and let him know of what I am finding in this new world of dating. The bottom line is men and there are women as well are not respectful of one another anymore. I wish everyone well with their searches and may God bless you.
What a well written post, and I totally agree with everything that you said. What happened to men who respected you for the person you are and enjoyed being in your company for the purpose of conversation and connecting mentally?
Does anyone believe in companionship or friendship anymore? Would love to meet a man with honest values and one who is capable of making a commitment. Men Do want younger women and younger men want Sugar Mamas! These dating sites have been a joke. Just stumbled upon this site, loving it. Well I just stumbled onto this site too. I appreciate the thoughtfulness and honesty of the posts here Your post is something i could have said too about women. I think the sad truth is that most people are not capable of having a truly intimate relationship.
It seems the older people are, the more it is true. Most people become more rigid the older they get, and certainly more set in their ways, making them less likely to give up the freedom they have as a single person. I think most of us like the idea of being in a loving relationship. What i have found out is that finding someone who can actually show up when the heat is on and wants to be with me, and i want to be with her is rare, especially being over sixty.
Having a personality and mutual respect is what the foundation should be for any relationship regardless of the age of those involved. It is true that the men are seeking sex….. Just be honest if u want a friend with benefits then let the guy know. If u are not into the guy, pay your own way on the date and move on down the line.
No gentleman wants to be considered as an entertainment center at this point in his life and would hope that the woman in his company actually enjoyed his company and was not simply with him for A Night out and a free meal.
Of course, it is my belief that doing the everyday things of life….. Will let us know if we are compatible with one another…. Sitting across from you at some restaurant tells me nothing about you except your table manners. For me at this stage of my life …66…. Best of luck to each of you…. After reading some of the comments about online dating sites I would like to make a comment about Plenty of Fish. I thought it was a really good website until I got kicked off because all of my emails from them kept going in my spam.
Try to get back on there and it is next to impossible. I have written to them several times to see if they could help me get back on. The scammers are everywhere on all of these sites.
I was almost scammed 3 times I am ashamed to admit but they are very devious! I am 61 years old and find that most of the men I talk to have nothing but sex on their mind. I think our world is going to hell really quick. It is very depressing and I wish there were more honest people on these sites and not jerks! Needless to say I am still looking for a good man. In March when I officially retire I think I am going to start looking at activities through churches and community buildings to try to meet people.
It seems to me that would be the only way to meet someone as I am not a bar hopper or nor do I go to clubs. Good luck everyone on finding your soul mate! Kevin Gillham it is good to hear there are good men out there. I am sorry that your marriage ended the way it did.
I have stopped going on the online dating sites. I was diagnosed with another health issue that I have confronted and in the process have lost forty pounds and am doing really well. I know my problems were due to an abusive marriage and now I am feeling more confident about myself.
I enjoyed your feedback and hope to hear from you again. Hi Kevin Same thing happened to me. Hi Kevin, yOu sOund like the man every woman dream of. I bet yOur not alone anymore. I thought you needed to be at least 60, so you got a couple of years to go…Are you still looking for someone to share some time with and get to know or did you meet that special lady already.
This comment was written in but this is March of You must be happily married by now, or at least engaged…If not, send me a few lines. I am looking for from around 60 to 75, and am very new to doing this. My angel does an excellent job of watching over me. Where do you live now and are you still actively looking for someone? I am now free and have been for almost 7 years. Husband passed away in from lung failure.
This is the First time I visited this site…. And out of curiousity i read many of the comments and the replies… there seems to be quite a bit of confusion about sex and indivuales …. I agree with you on almost E very thing that you said.
If you live near or close to , we can bond and explore.. Thanks and God bless! I wish you the best of luck!
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