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When I first started college, I felt like a kid in a candy store. I was living on my own for the first time, had consistent invitations to parties, and was suddenly an object of desire after being dismissed as a high school nerd. The culture surrounding sexuality was also different. During the first semester of my freshman year, I engaged in casual hookups often. But by the spring of that school year, I had stopped. The best way I can describe it is that I wanted something more profound.

I got more fulfillment out of nights spent engrossed in philosophical discussions, having heart-to-hearts with friends, and working on art projects. I wanted a relationship that would fulfill me emotionally, intellectually, and physically — and purely physical relationships were fun, but starting to feel incomplete. They told me sex and love were very intertwined for women, so it was hard for us to enjoy sex without an emotional bond.

But I did enjoy emotionless hookups. People told me women got attached after sex due to hormones, so it was no wonder I wanted more. Actually, I felt quite distant. That was precisely part of what I disliked about it. As a cognitive neuroscience major, I happened to know that sex can release bonding-related hormones for people of all genders. So here are some explanations for why I and other women, as well as many people of other genders might choose not to have casual hookups — that have nothing to do with biological gender differences.

One possibility I first learned about from the book The Ethical Slut is that women are less likely to engage in casual hookups because they involve being in an intimate setting with someone they may not be able to trust.

The possibility of getting assaulted was definitely on my mind when I sought out hookups. My friends and I would text one another to make sure we were okay if we ever went home with anyone after a party. During my freshmen year, my cousin and I met a group of guys at a party.

I thought one of them was really cute. We stood outside and talked for a while. Afterward, I excitedly went back to his apartment. After making out for a while, he told me to give him oral sex.

I said no again. He pushed my head downward. I told him not to push me. He said he never pushed me. He insisted once more. At that point, I felt like a royal pain in the ass. I felt it was easier to just do it than to keep arguing.

And I told myself I liked it. Afterward, as we talked to his roommate, he got behind me and made a humping motion to show off. I spent a long time believing that this encounter was consensual.

I thought being pressured into sex was just something women had to deal with. But it made me more wary of future hookups. After all, that guy had seemed so sweet and innocent. Who else could unexpectedly pressure me, embarrass me, and treat me like a conquest? My experience is extremely common. Even when women are not sexually assaulted, they often deal with partners who treat them like objects. Going home with someone at the end of the night is a gamble for anyone, especially women and other gender minorities, who are more likely to be sexually assaulted and constantly told to protect themselves from assault.

Let me make it clear that my experience with casual hookups, particularly in college, exists within a set of cultural norms that apply particularly to cisgender men and women hooking up with each other. Remember the guy who insisted I perform oral sex on him? He refused to perform it on me — which he had the right to do , but the asymmetry of his expectations was telling.

And a lot of women I knew had experienced the same. The oral sex gap could partially explain the orgasm gap between straight men and women, which is larger in casual hookups than in relationships. In hookups, men have three orgasms for every one a woman has. In relationships, the ratio is only 1. One study , which unfortunately stuck to a gender binary, found that adolescent girls actually lost friends when they had sex, while boys gained friends.

That belief stigmatizes normal human behavior for one gender. Mouth stuff was okay. But a penis would change me. Your number of sexual partners says nothing about you.

But it powerfully shapes the way I think of myself. And I grew up in a secular, liberal environment. This is not the worst of it — just standard, society-wide sex-shaming. I maintain that there was more to my decision to forgo casual hookups than sex-shaming, but the more I think about it, the more I realize how much the sexual double-standard played into it.

I could want an emotional connection with sexual partners without reducing that desire to female hormones. This could just be how I was, as an individual. My reasons are much deeper than that. I prefer more intellectually stimulating, emotionally intimate, trusting, secure, communicative relationships. You can follow her on Twitter suzannahweiss.

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I thought one of them was really cute. We stood outside and talked for a while. Afterward, I excitedly went back to his apartment. After making out for a while, he told me to give him oral sex.

I said no again. He pushed my head downward. I told him not to push me. He said he never pushed me. He insisted once more. At that point, I felt like a royal pain in the ass. I felt it was easier to just do it than to keep arguing. And I told myself I liked it. Afterward, as we talked to his roommate, he got behind me and made a humping motion to show off.

I spent a long time believing that this encounter was consensual. I thought being pressured into sex was just something women had to deal with.

But it made me more wary of future hookups. After all, that guy had seemed so sweet and innocent. Who else could unexpectedly pressure me, embarrass me, and treat me like a conquest? My experience is extremely common. Even when women are not sexually assaulted, they often deal with partners who treat them like objects.

Going home with someone at the end of the night is a gamble for anyone, especially women and other gender minorities, who are more likely to be sexually assaulted and constantly told to protect themselves from assault.

Let me make it clear that my experience with casual hookups, particularly in college, exists within a set of cultural norms that apply particularly to cisgender men and women hooking up with each other.

Remember the guy who insisted I perform oral sex on him? He refused to perform it on me — which he had the right to do , but the asymmetry of his expectations was telling. And a lot of women I knew had experienced the same. The oral sex gap could partially explain the orgasm gap between straight men and women, which is larger in casual hookups than in relationships. In hookups, men have three orgasms for every one a woman has. In relationships, the ratio is only 1.

One study , which unfortunately stuck to a gender binary, found that adolescent girls actually lost friends when they had sex, while boys gained friends. That belief stigmatizes normal human behavior for one gender. Mouth stuff was okay. But a penis would change me. Your number of sexual partners says nothing about you. The Takeaway Turns out, when you remove societal judgement and safety risks, women are just as DTF as men are. Who knew safe, sex-positive environments were such a turn on for women?

Well, hopefully everyone now. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. It's too easy for us women to convince ourselves to settle for less. We're so helpful and accommodating, so eager to please and afraid of rejection that we're quick to give up the things we need, including when it comes to sex.

What we need to see is that doing this will leave us chronically frustrated. While it's true that every relationship requires a certain amount of compromise, going without the things that we really need just doesn't work. We'll end up unhappy in the relationship or resentful toward our partner. The bottom line is, we need to know what we can't live without, sexually, and what we just can't live with.

We ignore these non-negotiables at the expense of a fulfilling sex life.