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To those still looking. May your search prove fruitful and may you not only find a partner but perhaps yourself along the way. What an intelligent, well-crafted description.

I have to ask, I really have to, but I already know the answer: Where are the men who treat words this way? You would think they would know how to treat a woman, too. Obviously not on Websites, which is why there is hope in this world, that past the wave of flat, online-dating lameness perhaps people will once again resort to real Life to get one Thank you, this is refreshing.

It has become clear to me with the passing of the years that my knowledge and understanding are very limited much to my own consternation. However I will do my best to explain the situation as I see it. My answer will likely seem off topic and possibly confusing. Unfortunately the real issue, as is almost always the case with problems we are facing today, exists far beyond the usual scope of answers proffered. For a large society to function social stratification must be present.

When a population expands beyond a relatively small number it is impossible for everyone to have an equal voice as the time and energy requirements would preclude the accomplishment of the necessary workloads. To skirt this issue society requires managerial positions and base labor or worker positions. Just as managers help organize workers the governing of society requires the same type of organization.

The answer to this problem would seem to lie in providing an equal education for all. That answer provides a couple glaring issues. First off it is important to recognize that those in positions of prestige will seek to maintain their position and furthermore will seek to promote the inclusion of their offspring into similar positions. Secondly our education system isn't so much a system of learning as it is a system of training. For our society to function we require managers and workers.

If our education system really sought to equalize knowledge our current system would cease to exist. Instead our education system is designed to separate gifted from normal students as potential managers versus the working class.

The design of our education system clearly has its roots in the workings of industry. Teach children to be on time and ready for a full days learning. Teach children to submit to authority early teacher so as to be prepared to submit to those in managerial positions later on. Teach children to seek out permission in regards to bodily functions so as to further separate them from the ability to govern themselves.

Likewise our education system separates children from families to further degrade our communal nature including compassion and empathy and therefore connection to each other. This is where it gets interesting.

Consider what we've done so far. Now I'd ask that you reconsider your question. If your question was based upon a society of equals who were all knowledgeable, reasonable, autonomous and yet cooperative we could easily reason that people would treat each other with kindness and respect. However we've created a system of inequality in which the common citizen holds little if any power and instead lives by the whims of society at large. This system promotes competition as it is undeniably preferable to gain power and move up the social ladder.

My contention is that inequality and competition are the precursors of societies ills. Men mistreating women certainly but more to the point people mistreating each other for gain. It seems odd to think that men seeking a partner would act as many so often do but it is important to remember we're not dealing with intellectually compassionate equals. We're dealing with generations of people that have been bred to compete with one another and ultimately not see each other as equals but as enemies of a sort.

We're not killing each other for the most part at least within our own society but we are competing for limited resources to our own detriment. It is important to note that women are playing their own role in this game of losers. Women by evolutionary design primarily revolving around the unequal distribution of effort regarding procreation seek out comfort and safety which play into the unequal distribution of power and wealth.

Early on men realize their ability to find a partner directly correlates to their ability to acquire wealth so as to be a better provider of safety and comfort for a wife and any potential offspring. While it is true a poor man can find a partner it should come as no surprise that the greater wealth a man possesses the more opportunities he has to find a desirable mate. So we are left with a very complicated answer to what seems like a reasonably simple question.

Unfortunately we are dealing with complex systems based upon an unequal distribution of wealth, power and knowledge. My explanation is quite limited in its scope but explains the answer as I see it. Unfortunately the answer I've given also infers similar issues with offline dating as ultimately this has little to do with the internet and more to do with society. The internet plays its own role in this debacle with its inherent anonymity further allowing a debasement of the civilized forms of respect we've come to accept as normal.

Consider for instance civilization isn't so much truly civil as it is civil within the confines of its power structures.

Also I can attest to the fact that I currently hold an account on okcupid. I am currently looking for a partner. I have also chosen to abstain from competition regarding wealth and power and instead am attempting to find a place on the fringes of society where I can be myself without harming others.

I own very little, earn very little, and struggle to find women willing to get to know someone in my societal position as a potential partner. Certainly there are many good women open to dating a man such as myself but the difficulty is increased immensely. I have to be honest, your reply, while very interesting on societal analysis level, in very interesting, but it is indeed slightly off topic.

I am just surprised, being that Website dating starts with writing and pictures, that men put so little effort in writing. It would be like going to a date wearing really sloppy clothes. My question was not based upon a society of equals, but it was based on a society where all have access to school, which is the case in the US.

However biased the system is, we all have choices and access to literacy regardless of gender. I was also not considering dating based on a marketing transaction -men with fat bank accounts and women stuck in comfort zones- but based on feelings and building a life with someone of the opposite sex because when you're with that person, you don't feel like you need or wish to be anywhere else.

And that has absolutely nothing to do with bank accounts and comfort zones. But in this country, everything revolves around marketing laws, including what cannot be bought, sold, or quantified. Which is why I don't have an account, because dating accounts are marketing tools, too. That said, you might run into a human being on one of them at some point, because anything is possible.

I really appreciate your succinct description of our issues with marketing in all facets of our life. Regarding the point you have made in regards to how little effort men put into writing as a means of sharing their true selves I would like to suggest that the issue is not limited to men. I've perused hundreds of women's profiles and I can attest that it is a rare person that writes of themselves in a fashion that isn't simply a marketing job.

The vast majority of women's profiles read exactly like a job application. I don't believe the issue has to do with literacy per se. Instead I believe the issue lies with the individuals capacity to think for themselves.

I mentioned education as I believe a large part of the intended goal is to afford people the ability to receive instruction. As opposed to being able to decide whether or not they should be following the instructions.

My most recent relationship was with an intelligent and compassionate woman who received a Waldorf education and in turn taught at the Waldorf Highschool she attended. She repeatedly informed me in our year and a half together that she wasn't comfortable with showing me her true self. Instead she often acted in ways to impress me. Even after we'd been together over a year she was still putting on airs.

Certainly this could be attributed to my actions. However having lived through the experience I can attest that I strove to make her feel loved and accepted as she was. Ultimately what I've come to understand is that she has not yet learned to accept herself. I believe this is incredibly common in our society. After all our marketing systems have done a very thorough job of setting impossible and often inane ideals and as we are both aware the primary victims are women.

For someone to truly connect with another person and feel completely content with another they must first know and accept themselves. In my forty plus years in America I believe that to be a rarity.

I have known people of all ages including countless couples who seem to have a better grasp on celebrities lives than they do on their own.

I can count perhaps a handful of people I've met who have formed their own systems of belief. The vast majority have simply accepted whatever belief system they were fed without question. It seems as if very few people have done the internal work required to truly know oneself. That was one of the main points I was attempting to get across. My long winded explanation may have been an ineffectual attempt at explaining my reasoning behind this issue. Thank you for sharing your insight and reasoning behind your disinterest in online dating.

In regards to myself I have done a lot of work to understand the world in my own fashion as opposed to what I was taught. My dating profile is quite lengthy and is intended to share who I am as a human being in hopes of finding someone that has done similar work.

What I have shared of myself also has the benefit of eliminating a lot of potential conflicts that typically arise in conversations with people as part of the process of getting to know one another. I have no way of knowing whether or not any of this matters but I figured that trying a new tact certainly cannot cause me to be more single than I already am.

I wonder if the information provided about there being more men than women is for a particular age group? I am reasonably attractive and several of my photos were taken by a professional not altered in any way-I wanted it to be clear that they are really like me and give the date taken.

I've put a lot of effort into my profile so that it gives unique info about me and describes the qualities of a good guy are to me and despite having at least one hundred matches in my region I haven't received any communication sincc e the first week when 2 men contacted me with questions. So I have communicated with several men. Are all the men contacting the same small subset of women or are they to lazy to communicate at all. Several of the men I communicated with then viewed my profile and neither responded or blocked me.

It takes only 2 clicks to block a profile. I find it inconsiderate. I think I'll connect with you Intellectually. It remains to be seen if I'll also connect spiritualily and emotionally.

I'm 19 going on 20 and the first messages are from guys way older than me at 30 and up to their 50's. Where are the dudes closer to my age! Seriously why, Even when I dont have a picture Well, some men prefer younger women maybe for their youth or maybe they feel they can manipulate them before they get older?

Some older women are bitter after a divorce or bad relationships with bad men could be another reason. I am almost 53 and no offense prefer women around my own age, say 47 to I have had younger women in their early 20's to 30's interested on Match: I was married for 24 years, been divorced 3 years.

I am 5'7 in shape and the dating world seems wicked since I was married and I have dated some attractive ladies. It does work but the odds are seriously stacked against men. Women, if they know their value and are pretty, want Superman. They block or ignore them Online dating sucks for men. Women have to weed through the countless messages determining who the winner is.

Pretty accurate assessment when it comes to men. Let's cut to the chase. I have been on and off dating sites for 8 years. Had a couple of relationships but from women, here are some of what I get regularly: To attract men, the majority of women describe themselves as "athletic and toned", "liberal", "love the outdoors" and most of them kayak, mountain climb, zip line, hang glide, parachute, run marathons, swim, etc. When do they find time for a relationship?

I don't think that many men on these sites fit that criteria. Men also exchange messages online and all of a sudden it goes dead but women are online still talking with others but not responding to your last message I have read "no receding hairlines", "no skin problems", "no facial hair", "only vegans should write back", "if you did not vote for Barack Obama don't bother replying", "if you are voting for Trump please don't email me", "no men with brown eyes", "only blue eyes please" and even "if you have toe nail fungus don't bother contacting me".

I could write a book. BTW, these same women call themselves "down to earth" and "looking for a great guy who is thoughtful, caring, a good communicator, financially sound, etc. Myself, I have a great job, financially set, not picky, average looking, 5'7" pounds, etc.

But women are looking for George Clooney, Brad Pitt hey ladies here is your chance I'd say caring who the person is going to vote for is important. If you have liberal views you want someone else who does too. If you have conservative political views you might not get along with a liberal political view.

I personally don't even want to be friends with anyone who would vote for Trump. Why would I be willing to date someone who does? I think if it comes down to values and lifestyle choices, it's ok to state those.

But yes, requiring a specific height, hairline, etc is very silly. You also do have to be attracted to the person. As someone who has dated someone just because they like their personality and has tried to look past their appearance, I can tell you it has lead to be not wanting sex. Now if the guy is ok with no sex, then sure it doesn't matter what someone looks like. But yeah media and society has screwed with both genders view on what is and isn't attractive and that can make online dating, and non-online dating very difficult.

I dated a Liberal woman and no conflicts arose from our political differences. I find it troubling you wouldn't even want to be friends with someone who would vote for Trump, or even someone who wouldn't be friends with another who voted for Hillary.

You sound grossly intolerant of other people's views. You should be open to people with differing views than your own, otherwise you will fall into engaging in groupthink and confirmation bias.

In other words, you will not learn much in this world seeking out people who will just agree and affirm your opinions on life.

You grow by seeking those out who can show you a different perspective. In my experience, I've found people like you frustrating to say the least. My favorite moment is when they stop messaging in the middle of conversation. You try again and again but there is no response although she's online, like she had a heart attack suddenly.

Another one is when they don't show up. First date and without any warning just no show. Then no response of course. Love those moments especially when they call men creeps. After several contacts like this in the row, men can start acting creepy, I guess. They learn very quickly to not give any respect to women because they are not going to get it back even when everything is going very well.

Well, I'm not there yet but I get pissed sometimes, it's nothing like in real life. I never thought that beeing 5. Asking women to give you a chance and message you back after looking at your message and profile is like women asking you to message and reach out whenyou have zero attraction, nothing in common and zero interest in taking to. It goes both ways.

Just because you're intrested and they aren't doesn't mean they want bad boys and smooth talkers. Men you don't reach out to women you're not attracted to, don't except women to make the exceptions lol. The difference, Brooke, is that men find a wide variety of women attractive. Women all find the exact same men attractive. The popularity of online dating is increasing day by day as some of amazing apps are already out in the market. We can expect some more apps which will be safe and great to use in the future.

I know some girls might not want to hear or accept this but it's a reality. I'm not a pig and I have good intentions, I want nothing more than a real relationship with someone I'm mutually attracted to.

But if I can't have that I will take what I want and go from there. Ladies, my advice is if you take the best men available to you online this is likely to happen. Remember, we men are taking our best options because we're in a totally different ballpark. We get messages once every couple weeks if we're lucky, you gals get up to hundreds in that time-frame and rarely message us back.

It sets you up to be shallow. I probably would be too if the roles were reversed. First let me say that I am by no means attacking any one person in particular and I though it may sound like it at times, the statements I am making are simply my opinion and only my opinion.

Beyond that, I do not pretend to be an expert on what women want or what men do incorrectly. I am merely being as honest as the others on this site to whom I say thank you. So please, know I am coming from the same frustrated place as the thoughtful and honest men and women who have commented here.

I only hope to give my viewpoint to perhaps shed some light however dim, LOL on the incorrect, ill-advised thoughts and information that men make about women vs. And that men and women can somehow reach a semblance of mutual understanding. It is never my goal to exacerbate the problem or further drive a wedge between us. So- having said all that — whew! Allow me to explain: See, we women love sex, too depending, of course , but we are not coming from the same, ahem, overwhelming pressure point as most men.

And so do women. We are human, too. Yes, I admit, we too have eyes and are attracted to someone good looking but guess what? And with men, it is. I cannot speak for all women nor would I claim to,, but I know enough of us sufficient to go out on a limb here and say the following with measured confidence: And they would not be lying about that, either. A true nice guy, in our minds is a man who treats us with mutual respect, And those guys are cherished and sought after, not overlooked.

Or, if you are, maybe you are not allowing that to shine through in your profile somehow? Please get it straight, please. I am referring to non-physical, non-employment or money-based attributes which we women, go figure , are truly looking for in a partner.

Meanwhile, you guys are doing the ole, what is it? We have to expend a large chunk of our lives and real energy thinking about crap you would never dream of,.

Fear and risk are a real thing and do play into the whole online dating thing for us, as much as you might not want to believe it or ever even factor it in. So please, try to remember things beyond your own paradigm. We will do the same for you. Good luck out there everyone! You did spend a lot of time on your tex to clarify the situation! I salute you for this effort.

I do understand and identify to all of what you said. I am only saddenned that the phenomenon of online dating is a speculative viscious circle where the more men need to date someone, the more selective because submerged women are and therefore the more men need to date someone!

II don't think you are spitting on us and I understand that it is a delicate matter on both sides. Reversing the mechanism will take a lot of goodwilling people ready to change their attitudes! One guy sent me this message: I can make sure you are kept well dressed and have all the latest handbags.

All you have to do is give it to me whenever I want it. My response seeing as men complain that they don't get a response and women are just being rude: I can buy these things on my own as I am self sufficient and make my own way in this world. You sound like you are looking for a whore. You may want to spend your time at a brothel instead of wasting your time on dating sites. You are everything I am looking for to complete my life. I think we could be great together.

My response after looking at his profile or lackthereof as a headless torso with only a vague description of what his interests are or any indication that he has a personality: I am very flattered by your compliment. I can foresee major problems in this relationship already.

You and I can be great together, and that's all we need. You are my perfect dream girl. Sound fair to you? I can dig what you were trying to say here Cause there is a lot of substance. But some of what you say completely contradicts the evidence that has been compiled on this subject. This isn't an opinion So while I appreciate your input and I do feel there was a lot to gain from it You are completely wrong in your assessment that women aren't as shallow as men.

If anything because they have so many choices They filter them by looks. It's sad but true. Society in general and men in particular are very critical of women's looks. Many unattractive men have beautiful partners but rarely do you see the opposite. You rarely see unattractive women in movies or on the news media and yet there are many men who are not gorgeous who have successful careers in these fields. Women know, from their teens, that their prospects throughout their lives will be limited if they are not beautiful.

Most men, especially attractive ones, will not give them the time of day if they are not a "10" or close. Women tend to focus on relationships and family while men are driven by their desire for sex. The notion that women are only motivated by looks in the search for a partner is pretty far fetched when you consider the natural tendencies of women and men. I think you're close but still off the mark. The only unattractive men with beautiful wives are those with money.

I think this statement is incorrect:. Women often call unattractive men without money who flirt with them "creeps", but these are often the same women who welcome the advances of men who are either attractive or are wealthy. You can see this in how most women still expect men to pay for the first date or women joke with their friends that he was "cheap" and in most cases won't go on another date - and this often has no reflection of the actual incomes of the two parties.

Your view as women as inherently more moral than men in the dating game is a bit sexist and outdated to be honest. Women have their unfair standards about men as well, and society strongly supports those in how they socialize young boys. The main difference is people mostly recognize unfair standards they set for women while society has failed terribly at recognizing the unfair standards set for men.

As an older woman 49 , I felt obligated to respond to anyone that contacted me, even it it was to acknowledge we did not have much in common I do believe this is one of the downside of online dating We would never think of behaving like this if meeting someone in person but we think it's ok to do so when behind a keyboard.

As mentioned by one of the poster My god you're a saint. Ireally didn't think anyone like you still existed in our society today, I try to do the same but some are so touchy and perhaps so used to ghosting that they lash out, but I still won't stop Your post litterally made my eyes swell and I just nearly cried. I don't need all women to like me, just a little compassion and empathy The unfortunate aspect of "being polite" or "having respect" for individuals who have taken the time to message you is the percentage of men who then lash out in anger or rage when you do send them a succint, polite "thank you, but I don't think we're a match, but good luck to you" message.

Some men resort to insulting your looks, your weight, your single status "oh, i see you're stuck up and think you're too good for guys. Some go so far as to threaten you physically if they ever see you in public. So, while sending a nice, polite "no thank you" message is a lovely thing to do, I'm afraid to say a number of your more rage-filled brethren have ruined that for you and made women absolutely fearful to even attempt to turn a man's interest down, even if politely.

I find the topic of online dating very interesting. I try as much as possible to understand it from both male and female perspectives and I enjoy talking to women about it to see what their experience is like. I'm not your typical male in online dating, while most of my messages go unanswered I do converse with and meet women online. I've had several relationships from online and I plan on continuing to use it.

I'm a 27 year old male and I'm not a "hottie", but I am tall and in shape and maybe that helps me. It seems online dating is starting to get easier for me these days especially. I'm successful which I do say in my profile, and I'm wealthy which my profile does not say. All this being said, there are some major drawbacks for me. We all have our things we're into but I'm often guessing if I'm even attracted to the women I agree to meet.

I take the chance anyways because it's my best option at that time. Some of the women I meet I find attractive, but most of the time they aren't as good looking as girls I would date in real life. As a guy who does really well in a date setting, almost every girl I meet wants to see me again, I'm left frustrated by this.

I know I'm a catch, and I carry that with me but online I rarely have the choice to date women I'm attracted to. They come around once in a while but most don't answer me back.

So what do we have here? We have a guy who is dating mostly girls he's not really attracted to because those are his options. But it doesn't end here. I'm human, I like sex, and I will pursue and sleep with girls I'm not totally into if it's been a while. As a guy who's more successful in online dating than most men I just wanted to share my experience.

I know, I'm technically adding to the very problem I'm complaining about by dating and sleeping with women I'm not attracted to.

But, can you blame me if that's usually all I can get online? Meet us halfway, you might find a guy who is amazing and will treat you with love and respect. There is a clear divide in what men and women can attain in terms of physical attractiveness online.

Yep you sound like a total catch! Anyone that says they are a "catch" usually are not. This is a fun line, because it's so easy to prove that it is a lie.

Last week I sent 20 messages on match that said "Hi, you seem like an interesting woman. And so we see that what this woman says is a lie. If you still think she's not lying, try if for yourself and you'll see. The problem with Match is that most of the profiles are inactive. The people you messaged probably never saw it to begin with. The best way to get your foot in the door is to find something in their profile to start a conversation about.

Ask them an open-ended question so they start talking about that and themselves. Say they list Adele as one of the musicians they like. You could say something like, "What do you think of Adele's new album whatever?

I think her best effort on it was whatever song because What is your opinion? I mean at least it shows you read her profile AND it is a conversation starter. It would be like saying, "Do you want to go see some movie? It's like when women give you that infamous piece of advice to "just be yourself" I think you should do some research on what the differences in amounts of grey and white matter mean.

Your interpretation of the difference between genders and the effect it has on how women think is skewed and not fact based. It does account for why men are better at math and women are better language skills, but it does not mean that women make decisions based on feelings.

Maybe you want to believe that, but it does not make it true. Your relative is exactly the wrong example to use for why online dating is bad for women.

That's not nearly enough time. Yes, it's creepy that men twice her age were hitting on her, that shouldn't even be allowed. There should be a filter and I think there are more of those now. Are there going to be total weirdos sending you messages? Yes, but you have the option to ignore every new e-mail as a woman. That means a woman can spend an hour writing five emails to the "perfect" matches they're looking for. They'll get one response and likely that guy will ask her out within a week.

If you don't like the creepy emails, don't read them! Men on the other hand have no other option then to send out hundreds of emails and they better be more then just, "Hey, I love your smile in that one photo and we have this, this, this in common. You have to "perform" for them and they have to get your sense of humor through text. Then if you're good looking and tall at least 6'3' because they're going to assume you're adding three inches you've got a shot.

And even then they might blow you off because they don't want to tell people they met their boyfriend online. I just deleted my profile on OKCupid and I'll tell you why I received many messages from men, some creepy messages Seems that a lot of men are quite happy to remain behind a screen and those who are up to meeting right away are seeking sex.. One man messaged me and stated he found my profile interesting that we had much in common, we messaged back and forth and then he asked for my cell so we could chat Probably because some other woman was more willing to meet up and cut in front of you without the needless back and forth.

Yeah, this seems pretty spot on. For women its a barrage of messages and makes them think thery're god's on Earth, no matter how ugly. For men it's a quiet hole to realize women are a lot more shallow than they knew, no matter how attractive. This makes the women bat way above their league and the men bat way below. The best part to illustrate this?

I'd say all of the women I message first are at least around my physical attractiveness league, but all the women that message me first are way, waaaay below it. Like obese chicks levels below it. Now if there was a way you could fix this by making an environment that gave men the upper hand and not women Maybe it'd be more balanced.

But as it is systems where men get the same features as women on dating sites are stupid asymmetric in terms of payback. Women get crazy shallow and men get crazy depressed. Interesting idea, but not my experience. I get my fair share of messages.. My other question is this: Does this new BF know she feels this way, that she is still married to the ex?

Does that mean that she has no plans to ever marry the new BF should that become a possibility? Does he know that their relationship is going no where due to her still being married? Honestly as this new guy, I would think she has too many issues and drama for me. A bit hypocritical to me. The way I see it, if she can move on with someone else, then she should also respect his new wife and not discount her or their marriage and stay out of it. Sorry Tracy, but is anyone home upstairs at all?

The fact is, you keep contact with him because you WANT to stay in contact with him, plain and simple. And Thank You Mel for backing me up on this. She needs to wake up and tell him to just stay out of her life. Change her phone number, address, etc…or whatever she has to do IF she really is indeed being pursued by him and not wanting it, this is such an easy fix!

Honestly, I think she likes the drama of it all and yes, I said that! The logic makes absolutely no sense at all. Why is it that you feel his current wife is the one out of place here, but not your BF? In reading this, people will just start to think of you as either a.

Not all there upstairs. My question now is: Why does your new beau accept this kind of treatment? Right, because if you are for real with all of this, then I feel very sorry for him. I would like to know Dr. This will not stop i know i married a man like this, now 5 years after we got married he cuts her grass every week and she drives him to get groceries. I am in the same boat! It is very frustrating and causes me to lose sleep.

I really wonder why they divorced only from what I know from him she had affairs over the almost 20 year marriage. To make matters worse, he tells me of the affairs then tries to cover them up and pretend they did not happen… I think this guy has to cut the cord definitely and if not soon, he will lose everything he has invested in with me! Thanks so much for this useful article- cut to the chase- the way I like it. After being in an almost 20yr marriage of this sort..

I can promise you it likely started out with him Cheating, is he gone a lot.. So out of his own guilt he continues to do things for her and the children as he should! Most likely she never wanted it to be like it was and tried over and over to talk with him about it. He still loves her!

I am with you Debbie, having a situation like this is like a never ending story. It is not easy when you love the man, but we have to love ourselves more and first. If the guy is not giving us the right treatment, then it is time to find a man that is willing to build that life with us. That holiday part you are saying, plus other meetings are just unacceptable, it is not right for us. The ex wife had already her time and show, it is time to move on.

But if the man has NO balls to tell her and it is very AFRAID of talking to her about this subject, he is just not worth it and he will repeat the same with the next one coming up. A coward for life and will loose a great treasure with the one that could have been an amazing partner.

It is totally frustrating! My story is so long but to sum it up-my husband ex wife is very controlling. This the same person she cheated on my now husband with.

Moving forward, she has called FaceTime my husband asking him to come to a strip Club with her as she was kissing all on the stripper in front of him.

Of course she threw the daughter in too. They are very close friends but some of the crap she does is very draining and suspect. On Thanksgiving my boyfriend of nearly 2 years we broke up once because of his incessant talks of the ex-wife let me know he is going to spend Christmas with his ex-wife, her parents and their GROWN 28 year old son.

Of special note is that my boyfriend is Jewish, his son and ex are Catholic, as am I. Then I explained I would be left alone that day and felt disrespected.

Furthermore, I invited he and his son for lasagna and gift exchange under my tree. He was insistent that he had done this every year.

This was in spite of the fact tfat his wife took to him to the cleaners financially and left him for a man over 20 years her junior.

Please help, the only time I had ever seen this happen Is when one of my friends found themselves in the awful situation of dating a married man. My friends and my 23 year old son are very supportive of me and explainef this needs to change. All support is appreciated, my boyfriend and his wife have been broken up for 8 years.

So here we go. What does one thing has to do with the other. So is someone supposed to stay with someone because it says so. I rather be divorce and happy than married and miserable. God gave that to us. No one needs to be anywhere they are not comfortable. Grown people acting like children…no wonder this world is so hard. Too many time on peoples hand.

How many chances can one person gets? In the long run someone has to make a decision. He needs a good spanking. Evidently something is missing here. Men take your place as men and start acting like Men, not little boys. Just take time to except the consequences of the foolishness you started and never finished. Women instead of disagreeing. Just get together and confront him once and for all. They have a 10 yr old and he is caregiver. I fallen in love with him..

He married someone much younger. Is there a good way to compromise? We are both physically fit and work out at the gym. I have relatively the same situation as this blog talks about but with a few twists. I will try to keep it short if possible and just the facts if I can. I have known this man 13 years, as a friend. We have lived together about 3 years now, after his second divorce and breakup with a girlfriend.

They have no children and post divorce had no need to see each other yet she would phone him for everything, including to pick her up at the airport after she flew back in from LA where she had plastic surgery.

I only share that as it is pertinent to the rest of the story and the pathology of his relationship with ex wife number 1. They have been divorced 9 years, no kids, and she is about 7 years older than him.

They were married over 20 and together probably have known each other now 30 years? The issue is that I knew him when he was married to her and got caught up in the issues between them and what turned out to be ex wife number 2. This is where it starts to really get weird. Ex1 became best friends with wife 2, who had been primarily responsible for the break up of her marriage. So he felt manly with her. Fast forward to me re-entering the picture he came looking for me and I actually had sense enough to try to run, and did for a while, but was apparently at a weak point in my life and needed the companionship or compassion, or who knows maybe I just needed to be needed for a change myself…anyway we ended up together despite my many early on misgivings.

We have been through hell and back in the last three years and he has grown a lot…. She has gone from being a daily intrusion down to at least a few times a week intrusion but he still has no qualms about her overstepping boundaries. He seems to feed off it actually. His therapist agreed that for all intents and purposes he is still married to her and told him this but he continues to disagree. He denies they were sending together just that she had offered to pick one up for him and as usual he just went along with it.

Another talk is meaningless. Girl you are an idiot if you think this is going to change at this point EVER…. No one should have to tell him she still has a place in his life…. I do have to say I struggle with the same thing. But if it were me then lord we would be at war.. I believe mine still loves her and loves the attention and the feeling od need that she gives him. Sounds similar to yours. Plus I still have the mother that just thinks the sun rises and sets on his ex.. Uggh its exhausting for sure.

I hope you find happiness.. I claim him as mine. So later i call my mom to say it and he goes and tells his mom that im mad at something and she goes and buy roses clearly it should be him, but all i wanted for to regonize im HIS wife and should be first. Then he tells me i forgot to tell you and i was like how can you forget to tell me, when you text early morning. Also he had spilled the beans about he had said Happy bday to her, which my bday is jan. The past two years he has forgotten mine, but remembers hers.

This year i waited all day and i told finally at 9pm about my day, so i gave him the benefit of the doubt and i let it go. The thing is i had know idea he was telling her happy bday until mothers day. We have been together 5 years and married almost 2 years. And he said i made a mistake, but clearly its been many mistakes since we been together. He always told i only talk to my ex about pur son and thats it. In mind i think exes should not say those personal things, those personal things goes to the new love of their life.

Exes are a reason their exes. She is a mother. Where r the men at these days? Are you kidding me, Michael? Cooks his favorite foods and shops for his school supplies, birthday presents, etc. In my opinion she should pack her bags and legally separate. He needs to wake up and let his ex wife go. Him texting her and forgetting your birthday, wow. Having you by his side will never make him appreciate you.

Pray and fast and remove yourself from the situation. Hi, I am in a similar situation, my boyfriend who i have been with for 12 months is still married, due to be divorced this coming September and he has 2 kids with his ex-wife of 17 years aged 4 and 7. They live with their mum full time and stay with us 2 nights per week.

Its starting to get to me and I feel it may ruin our relationship. Well im sorry, But you are messing around with a married man. Shame on you really. There are kids involved you should back off! I dont think its good she has posted things about you on fb.

But its not strange. Women like you are the nr reason familys fall appart. Stop using kids as an argument. They adapt to everything, better than adult. They have the right to know the truth and to understand that life is not always easy. When everything is done with respect, everybody can work it out. No woman are stealing husbands or no men are stealing wife. Sometimes, there is nothing to do but to leave.

Open up your mind a little bit more and hopefully you will realized that you too can be happy. Show your kids life is great, show your kids you can adapt yourself to every situation.

Show them they are responsible for their own happiness and not to wait for anybody else to make them happy. I left my husband because he was a bad husband, not because of my new boyfriend. How about the married man is looking outside the marriage? Families fall apart because of two people, mother and father. If things were great there to begin with nobody would be able to come between them. My advice is to get out now. Sorry to you for having to go through this! I to am in a similar situation as you are.

My fiance has been divorced for awhile now and we have been together for 2 yrs though I have known him since grade school. But still he believes her. He tells her things that he should be talking to me about, and texts calls and talks ALL day everyday, usually starting around 9am.

Everytime I get out of the car he instantly gets on the phone. I understand they have lids together and have to discuss them. I have kids too and an ex, and I rarely talk with him, its just not ok, its not ok for them to talk every day all day long.

Cancelling our plans with the lids on our weekends because she wants to come get thwm for something. BS she has family AND a boyfriend she has had for over 2 yrs! I hope you fins your way and see that this will never change, it will continue to make us both crazy and fell not good enough until we stop it. And Maria, until you have been in a similar situation you should keep your opinions to yourself and mind your own business. Thank the lord that your marriage is so perfect and that you have no issues..

I have been dating a man for one year. He has been divorced for 5years however him and his ex wife are still very good friends. They dont have children together but she is like a second mother to his daughter and is always at her house. They speak a couple of times a week about the daughter and just recently she put a car in her name for him since he is struggling rebuilding his credit.

Isnt this very odd??? The fact that the ex is like a second mother to the daughter is great, how wonderful for the girl to have 2 mothers and possibly a 3rd in the makings? My ex is on his way to see his daughters sister in Texas for Christmas my older daughter. How much better could that be for the children? My girlfriend sees her ex another woman every day and takes care of her fence, dog and goes shopping and to the zoo all day on sunday or whenever the ex asks her to hang out, all for the daughter 5years old the ex kicked me out of their house, because she felt uncomfortable, but I have to accept them being together and i am not allowed with them.

I came to a depression so deep, I almost lost myself. Finally i asked her to stop seeing her that much and set boundries, she blame our failure on me. For not acceptung her intimate friendship with ex. I let her go, i am a lesbian w feels used and betrayed.

She sees me as not strong or supporting. Please answer, i love her, but also love myself. Saying I do will say that you are ok with this situation as it is now.

Just clarify your stand and stand firm, however, be ready for his response because it may answer some questions you already know the answer too. He is acting like a ex husband and enjoys the attention of being needed. I just hate to hear that you are hurting and confused as a wife to be. Good Luck and be Blessed.

Some men NEED to be needed by others. And the thought of her still needing him after all this time is almost an ego boost for men. Kinda like the grass is greener on the other side? But ha ha she comes to me for all her needs.. I have been with my partner for over 5 years now and have the similar issues. They chat about everything, including our relationship. This has destroyed our relationship.

I will never marry him now and wish he would just leave my home. I have an ex-husband and we may speak once a year, if that! MEN……let it go and move on…………. My situation is the same way. It really is a total mess that we are caught up in. So you all tell me how jacked up is this??? Ugghh so I see the exit as being the beat door to take.. Oh and his contact with her has been on overload because she is now engaged to her man that she cheated on him with.

So now he is just extra sweet to her and awful to me! I guess I never will… Good luck everyone and I hope you all have a merry christmas.. I hope you find somebody that you can connect with emotionally,. Hi Christie , hope someone can help with my decision. After 10 years together and lots of family and financial problems my partner decides he needs space. Says he loves me but is not in love with me. Accepted that and living separately.

Found his profile on dating website. Just played it cool. After confronting him upset, realised faults on both sides and agreed to be just friends for now and who knows what will happen.

We had a holiday prebooked to Hawaii and still went together and both had the best holiday ever. After that, we caught up every fortnight for a meal or Sunday brekky to catch up on things and he came over for family functions. But I struggled with the whole friends thing and had an idea he was seeing someone so I called him to catch up telling him I wanted to talk. I explained everything I was feeling and that I understood he needed his space but that I was having a hard time dealing with it.

He then told me he had been seeing someone for a few times. He is sad that he has hurt me so but understands and wishes me every happiness and hopes we can be friends again one day. Since then I found out 2 weeks earlier he had introduced the new girlfriend to his sister. That sounds more serious. I still miss him every day and it is hard to move on.

Of course I think we are meant to be together and this phase will pass. Have I done the wrong thing by not being friends anymore. Has it lessened my chances of any glimmer of hope of him every coming back.

Forever and I need to forget him and move on. All advise would be greatly appreciated especially from a mans point of view as well. I dont know you but I have had a friend go through this exact same thibg, and she went through it for over a yr, different girls, him coming around when he wanted or needed something or just because he was lonely and had noone else. She put her life on hold for a yr waiting wishing and hoping while he dis what he wanted with whom ever he wanted.

We all finally convinced her to go out, do what she wanted ts he was, why should she sit and just wait for him to finish running around? And is sure of what they want for their future and knows without a doubt they want you in it? Go on with your life, create yourself a dating profile, go out with other people he is!

Stop giving him an open door to come over as well, once he sees that tour serious he may change his ways as well. There are several men in this world and women too that want their cake and to eat it too, at their loved ones expense, we are the only ones who can stop it from happening. I hope thing workout and you see what a great person you are.

Stop being his door mat and find someone who treats you as you deserve to be treated. Great article and really true, I am a divorced man as well, and since my ex and I have a 9 year old son together, I have the problem of having to deal with her trust me I wish I wold not have too.

But what you miss is that it is other way around the same. I dated a woman who constantly called her ex for anything that should have been between her and me, no matter if advise or help or anything else — it sucks and I dont deal good with that. If he knows better go back to him. Another case I had where the ex did no give a hoop about the family he left behind until I showed up on the picture and he constantly called or showed up.

In your final line you say You have never met a woman that likes to date a divorced man — well believe me when I tell you dating a divorced woman is just as tough and sometimes a pain in the rear six as well.

Overal everything else is just an amazing great article I loved to read, save and share on facebook. Just the same as my situation. Thanks for sharing Tom. It is so rare to find a man that will actually read and respond on posts like this.

Always appreciate hearing your point of view. Kids do best when their parents are in close contact and have good communication, even if the parents are divorced.

People generally split up for good reason. I have exes I talk to frequently — some of the relationships go back nearly 30 years now. Would we get together again? But we like and trust each other. Tell the lady nicely to grow up, recognize that this is a great thing for the stepkids, and buy a calendar. There is a difference between trying to pry parents apart vs an ex being so evil to do everything they can to ruin what their ex has because THEY are jealous.

That is my issue, never have had a jealous bone in ky body until I constantly have someone trying to break up me and my fiance because she all of the sudden wants her cake and eat it to. And she uses the kids as leverage constantly. There is a line and sending pics of yourself to your ex all the time is one of the MANY instances that crosses it. And if you think that us being the new women have the problems then your crazy. Amy Clearly your not reading these articles right. I am not nor have I ever been insecure or a jealous person.

Knowing she has done everything in her power to try and break us up, she lies and deceives everything in her reach, she saya s things about him and their past and she is a liar always! Says something about me that I can prove in black and white form and he believes her every word. The bottom line is that we have fallen in love nd have gone through hell and back for these men in our lives to only find out we will never be as good aa or enough compared to the EX they all hate so much..

Hi Amy, thanks for stopping in. It is better for the kids. Christie, you may be underestimating the emotional depth of the tie that a child is, and how helpful it is to children to have their parents be close friends. They deal with the issues daily.

So no, these children will not show up in your research statistics. I see no pathology there. Is this inconvenient for the girlfriend? But you know what? We talk often, deeply, and intimately. Three were at my wedding. They and I have stayed close through marriages, the births of children, divorce and near-divorce, the deaths of siblings and parents. Will we get back together? When my ex told me about her, I just blinked — did she not understand that there was no desire on either of our parts to get back together?

Or that the last thing my ex would ever want to be is a dad? It makes their lives warmer, easier, better-supported. I would suggest that they have some serious talks with their men, alone or in counseling, to see if the worries, frustrations, and insecurities can be dealt with.

But in no case can I see that prying apart a friendship that supports and deepens a parenting relationship is a good thing. I know many stepmoms like to use it. A bio mom, though, is a sort of advanced version of a sperm donor. One who gave birth and either gave the child up for adoption or has simply neglected the child. The work mothers do is already given short enough shrift. Over ten years ago. My parents divorced when I was 7. I saw how hard it was on both of them.

It was hard on me too, at the time. When they first split, for a long time they talked often and my Dad came over often. They were split up, but had not cut emotional ties to one another. I know this because they admitted it. Things changed when my mother met a man who would turn out to be my stepdad still is.

It makes sense — my mother had developed a new relationship and thus put her time and effort into that. However, I still spoke to my dad and saw him, but he picked me up and took me out rather than hanging at the house. He and my mother retained their positive relationship, which has lasted until this day — but their phone calls and interactions decreased somewhat because each had moved on to someone new.

This change did not affect me in the least because my parents got along, and each were happy in their new situations. My parents backed off their chats to make room for their new partners, while still keeping good relations. And it worked very well for them and for me. But who is a girlfriend — or anyone else — to be mandating how often parents talk? But I want to see that he can maintain the close relationships that count. The kids come first. Good fathers appreciate that. This is a man who knows how to do family, is a good friend and a good father.

The only thing left for you to do as a gf is to chill, know by the way he treats you that he loves you, and not insist on being the only pair of you-know-whats in the universe.

And live your life. Amy, I cited that example because you said I may be underestimating how much a child needs parents to be so close. To tell you the truth, I was also coming from the adult view there. The adults are responsible for seeing that the kids get what they need. Can you adjust to the reality of that relationship? If not, maybe this is not in fact the relationship for you; maybe you need a guy without prior attachments. Go for a guy without kids.

My ex had an affair, moved in with her over a year ago and still calls me every single day, sometimes twice a day.

There are no children involved. He calls me on the sly.. I have asked him numerous times to not call me unless it pertains to the grandchildren or the kids The kids are adults by the way.

He says things like, I will always care about you, and I just want to make sure you doing ok. Your ex sounds like a real gem! He made his bed; now he needs to lie in it! I fell in Love after long discussions about Life. He was married for 23 years when he decided to file for divorce.

Several years before I came into his life he questioned why he was still married. Did he want out of his marriage because of me, no. He is a very strong willed man and not one that can be lead astray from what he believes to be right or wrong. When we first met he was very open with me about his marital situation. He said that he was just beginning what would be a very difficult year to 18 month, but he very much wanted to have a life with me and hoped that I would stick it out.

There are fidelity issues going back to when they were first engaged, to after they were married. I can honestly understand her world being shattered since he has always stayed committed to their marriage regardless of the trials they went through.

When the comments about not wanting to live without him started, she also started to loose weight. He became very concerned and was checking on her and stopping by to see her on a very regular basis. Those threats went away. But still lots of phone calls and e-mails. Then medical issues started. First it was because she was worried about not having double medical coverage. Her employer covered her medical expenses then his picked up the rest.

She spent 18 months trying to get a disability retirement from her employer. All of these things were proof of how much she needed him to be there for her. His wife has been to our home once. I am not and have never been a secret that he kept from her……..

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