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Great post, I agree. It's hard to keep this in perspective sometimes, thanks! Its about closure for me not pride, and I don't want him back. But it would be good to properly close. I think many women sometimes feel they won't meet a guy as good as their ex bf,and he was the one etc etc. The number one complaint I hear amongst my female friends is how hard it is to meet someone they are attracted to and who feels the same way about them.
These factors play into wanting wanting an ex back, it can be better the devil you know.. Can't be a good thing both ways i. Make sure your motives are true ladies I would include that "prize" phenomenon under the category of "wanting to be with him because he is attractive" for the purposes of this post. My ex bf was "the guy" that never wanted to settle down, and was even known for initially telling all women that he didn't "want a gf" before engaging in any casual activity.
I never gave into his rules, and looking back now, it took a lot of time, and patience till we actually started dating. Not too long after, he willingly asked to be exclusive. I felt like a champ. Meanwhile, the whole entire time, I knew he wasn't the right man for me, so I cut it off. I guess everyone gets played somehow: This is so so so true. Realizing this made a big difference in my dating life It is not always to apply to a situation, it takes some self-control to not send that stupid text or make that uselesss phone call, but gosh it feels good not to!
And I think that how you behave with one guy post break-up will get shared with other guys so the more dignified you act, the better person you'll look. From your ex's point of view, he'll see you in a more positive light once he's over you because of the fact you had the self-control and respect for yourself not to try to get back together with him and to give him the space he needed.
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I highly recommends Dr. ABAKA to anyone in need of help. I have only today discovered your blog and I have to say that it is definitely the breath of fresh air I have been looking for. That being said, I have always wondered this: Why do men come back? My last relationship, which was somewhat serious, when he broke up with me, I cut him off. This was several years ago. No contact, no "being friends," etc. There was no nastiness, I just told him I was not comfortable hearing from him so I asked him not to.
Sure enough, three months later, almost to the day, he called me and wanted to talk about getting back together and working out any problems we had. Is it that he thought maybe the grass was greener somewhere else? Or is it truly realizing you made a mistake? Or is it a combination of all of the above.
I'm always the skeptic. It's nice to have someone ask "why did he come back? The important thing in those situations is to ask him, and gauge his answer.
If he balks at answering, it is bad news. If he knows exactly why he is back, you are in good shape unless he say something like "because I want to get laid!
From my experience with men, once they make a decision, that is it. There is no turning back. Even when men come to regret their decision, they generally stick to their decision - due to ego as well as the fact that they don't second guess themselves. By questioning their judgement, they are setting themselves up for questioning every single decision they make and introducing indecision into their lives.
I have found that when men "come back" it usually doesn't work out. His motivations are usually not honorable - ie he can't find someone else to have sex with, lend him money, make use of etc. Sure it can happen that men return to the women they can't live without, but this is not a common thing.
Yes masculine men don't go back on their decisions,they tend not to contact women they've broken up with. This is actually tough at the start of a break up but allows the time and distance a woman needs to get over an ex. The worst is when a man "want to be friends", in my experience they just want to make themselves feel less guilty about the break up and play the nice guy. The "can we just be friends" seems to be a uniquely female thing.
Unlike women who worry about what people think of them and don't want to appear mean or heartless, men are more matter of fact and upfront. To men, a short, sharp, quick execution is always preferable to a long, protracted, agonziing, lingering death by a thousand cuts. When a guys decides to break - it is the end as far as I am concerned. If he wasn't sure, he would simply ask to take things slow or take some time out rather than break things off completely.
If a guy is totally gutless, he would simply ask to take time out, and then do the slow fade. He would be hoping like crazy his ex would find someone else and forget about him which would not be possible if they "remained friends".
So he comes back as a looser. I like it when exes come back and make them as loosers. To not accept them back, ignore them and delete them completely from my life not only cut off all contacts but also from my life. I do it if the relationship ended badly. But if not we can be friends after they contact me when I have moved on. Didn't we all go back at one point? Usually boredom or lack of anything else interesting going on Very selfish, but still true.
Some people go back because they want validation that the person is still into them Sometimes, the person themselves doesn't even realise this. So here's my question: I want my ex back for reason a. He was everything I want in a man. In fact, I thought for sure we'd end up getting married.
He broke up with me. But that night was the breaking point. Anyway, its been two months since our split. And I've gone on dates etc. So to my question Or at least is there anything I can do to get him thinking about me in a positive way again so if I were to contact him he'd be more likely to talk?
I want him in my life for all the right reasons. I can say that I've never wanted an ex back before. Every other boyfriend was worth ending. It wasn't worth trying to fix something broken with any of them.
So what can I do, if anything, to be back on his mind, in a good way, and for communication to reopen. Please give me the male advise and perspective. By showing that you are self-assured and not needy, he will remember only the good things about you this happens with memory and will be more likely to want you back. If you highlight your neediness and insecurity about the relationship by contacting him and taking action to try to get him back, you will make it less likely for him to come back.
To me, the best way forward is simply to get on with your life. You should not, and I emphasis NOT, contact him when you're still so hung up about him. It would definitely come out in one way or another, with you probably ending up in a flood of tears begging on your knees. Not a good look. It would just remind him how lucky he was to have gotten himself out of an entanglement with you. It can be done, it has been done by countless of women before you and countless of women to come after you.
Who drives you to places unknown worth it?? Find a partner I know that I can find mine and I bit willing to settle yet for a flirt!! There is a man out there who will not flirt and if he does it would never be your fault ever!!!!! Your statement was that she chose this man, so she knew what type of person he was to begin with. My problem with this is she may have not known anything about this man when she started dating him. She may have just met him and they started dating, so to say she knew what kind of man he was when she first started to date him could be inaccurate.
Thanks a lot for comforting me in my calm way of seeing things that happened. This comes from his own insecurity; this is his issue and is not about me; this man I chose, this man I love…well, he has a need to be flirtatious. And I accept that about him.
She accepts it, but it still feels disrespectful; she accepts it, but it still puts her in awkward situations, or can cause embarrassment, or tension with other women. First — thank you for the very calm, even-handed comment and question. I always appreciate when someone presents a question in a thoughtful way like you did. She and he would be laughing about it on the way home from the party and it would be totally forgotten the next day.
It COULD be interpreted as sexual by someone, but the reality is probably just based in fun, nobody is actually getting turned on. I mention those examples and the concept of what reality two people share in a relationship in order to set up this next point:. Every day that someone wakes up and is in a relationship with someone, they are choosing to be there. They are choosing to continue participating in the relationship.
A lot of people overlook this simple fact. Yes, there are some approaches to people that work better than other approaches and get you better results …. On the other hand, he might share his perspective and it might broaden yours… you never know. So talk to him about it with an open mind and it can only help…. Just because one person might not take offense to the situation does not mean it should be acceptable in any given situation or relationship.
What is OK to one is not always OK to another, and if you are intending to build a life with someone then you need to respect their boundaries and limits, just as they do as they chose to be with you.
This article is a breath of fresh air. There is some nice logic here that is instrumentally helpful. Perhaps you can help me with my logic.. He has Madonna whore and about a year ago our sex life started diminishing and then I caught him sexting. The thing is I want him to flirt, i dont want him to suppress it, in fact it turns me on. After reading your article I suggested we both get our flirting and sexting out on tinder with guidelines.
I thought it would meet our needs and allow him to be him while respecting my boundaries. Thank you for the great advice, really, but where did I go wrong?
Im late 40s been with a man almost 2 yrs. Hes never married now have I. We get along great but he never wants to get married or live with me, he had a bad upbringing where his dad almost killed his mum abuse He had loss lately lost his job, his health is not as good as it was, his mum is sick in hospital too. The other night he wanted to go out to a karoke bar I did not really want to go it was late. We went and hes a musican on the side he likes to sing too.
He was flirting in front of me kissed and hugged the dj I was like in shock. Then he was raving about her to me how great she does her job, how talented she it etc and I was uncomfortable with that. He did this when we first went out hes hug and kiss the younger bartender and leave me there and continue to flirt with her. He jjust finally told me he loves me, Im the woman for him etc and does this.
Just last week he wanted abreak as he said he wants more freedom lol then he calls me up and asks me out. Forgot to mention Ive been cheated on many times in the past this is very hurtful. Its too late for me to have kids now I still seem to be seeking a good guy..
Im the only one whose never married yet of everyone I kniow including 3 sisters and their friends and all my friends. I did 2 yrs of reading and learning and positive thinking videos and attract love etc videos Ive worked like a dog to make things right Im not controlling either..
Its 2 years now!! Going through the same situation and this is absolutely right. Hope to have 1 of your book. Thanks a lot for sharing your wisdom. If your flirtatious ex-girlfriend also needed to have sex with the men she flirted with to fill that feeling of inadequacy and undesirability that she feels, would you have been as tolerant? If you would have called her out on it and told her that it was a dealbreajer, would you then also be a narcissist focusing only on yourself and your feelings at her expense?
The children that she bears from these other men—would you have been willing to raise them and be their stepdad? Hi all guys are thrill seekers. It is stupidity to ask and hope for loyalties in this age and time. Even if they do. I am feeling lost in my current relationship. I really love him. We have been dating for 3 years now, we have a lot of different interests and we have to totally different personalities.
Basically what is happening now is that our relationship is falling apart and it really breaks my heart. I need help with this topic too! It seems as though I cannot get away from this type of guy, or is it that ALL guys do this? He HAS showed signs of being insecure in the past, like checking out other women in front of me which I had addressed and he seemed to stop for a while, so I put up with it and trusted.
So, anyway, I had never checked his facebook or violated his privacy in any way until 2 weeks ago. I am incredibly hurt and confronted him immediately about it. He apologized and begged me to forgive him and basically we have been in limbo ever since. I have been nothing but amazing to this person, and he, like the rest of the people in this thread has checked out other women in front of me, is a big flirt, and is now basically TRYING to hang out with women behind my back.
The ONLY saving grace I can give him is that it seemed like it was an occurrence that happened within a time frame of a month or two and did not happen before that. We were planning on moving in together and he had outwardly told me he had cold feet. Will this just happen a few years down the line when I let my guard down? I know people go through tough times in relationships, but in the first year, this is a lot to go through to want to move forward.
I would love a mans opinion on how to move forward with this? Hi Eric, My name is laura…. I have been in relationship for 10years, last year we moved in his parents place as he got job in his hometown. We planned to get married this year but just 2months back he started to have an affair with his colleague. I beg, cried and asked for another chance but nothing work out. All he tells me is that he cant make any choice or dissision. His colleague is already married women with two kids.
I tried to talk with hus parents as his father works in same office, but they are not ready to help me as he is their only son and that they are scare of him. I left everything and even fought with my parents for him, but now he wants me to go home. He says he still cares about me and dont want to hurt me anymore.
Is there Anyway i can change his mind? My boyfriend of almost 7 years, who had never before been in a dating site I know, I was in dating sites before I was with him subscribed to one and started flirting with women in it.
My whole body is telling me leave this house before he comes back. This topic seems to continually arise in my relationships. I used to think that the women needed to get over their insecurities, steadfast that I was doing absolutely nothing wrong and they needed to get over it and let me have fun since I was not planning to be unfaithful.
Until…a woman that I had really grown to care for admitted that she was insecure. Had been her entire life and knew that she needed to address this to be free. However, she asked me this question. If I was going to hold her accountable for her insecurities, then it was time to address my own.
I do NOT understand why anyone would put up with their significant other flirting with or having sexy conversations with another woman. Eric is right about one thing. These guys do it because the females allow it. The first time I complained. Good luck to you. I shouted out a HEY! Before he overrode my window down button with his driver side. He was so embarrassed, terrified to lose me, and terrified of rejection from her.
He used to get angry when men would check me out, yet he did it to other women twice! For the record-he NEVER stared at another woman like that in front of me ever again after the window fiasco. And I dumped him because he was pressuring me to go back on my ideal of no kids. Hi Eric, thanks a lot for the article. I just want to make sure if it is ok to accept this kind of situation. So, I have a boyfriend and we are in a long distance relationship and its been a year.
I have caught him flirting with other girls online and this is the third time he did it. He said that he wants to have family with me and build everything together. I know he loves me because he never want to break up, and he really wants to make me comfortable by being open to each other. He did tell everything honestly to me, but the thing is, he promises me to change to be a better one and going to stop doing it. But I found him on that date site. It really makes me upset and worry much about our relationship.
He was chatting many girls before but never met them in real life. So please give me some advices of what I should do.
Should I keep trusting him? Thank you for your answer, it helps me a lot. Can I ask for your perspective on my situation? My first ever relationship lasted 9 years, I married the guy but he had a lot of insecurities, depression and mood swings. I was convinced it was me.. In the last year.. I suggested it expecting him to shoot it down.. The relationship broke down after that and I ended up seeing someone who I had a thing with during that period… I found out after then end of the relationship that my ex had cheated on me..
My issue now though is that my current partner is a glamour photographer. The problem I have is that he is a natural flirt.. I can deal with that.. I understand it… he comes to my bed at the end of the day. But, we had a child.. I feel that he thinks the relationship has changed.. Recently he has had a model in.. In his last relationship.. Whats the best course of action here? When we have sex he always compliments me.. I am usually very reserved.. What sort of compliments does a guy want to hear??
How do I do it? You give amazing perspectives to the asked questions. While most people jump to an obvious advice with the virtual dating bibles in their head, you read into the relationship better and leave us feeling positive about life and people.
So this article would want to support flirtations? As easy as that. Cause u are hurting emotions of your partner. Bonjour Charles, Thanks for sharing all those insights. Suprinsingly for an european I did learn a lot while reading your articles. I guess men will always be men where ever they are ;.
Back to your article. Would you please explain the following a bit more? You mentioned that we should not take those flirtatious behaviors personal and avoid reacting on them, right? That they might indicate a void our guys need to fill… insecurities… blah blah.. Yeah still no need to do it under our nose..
Ok but what about expressing our dissatisfaction in those circumstances? Would be nice if you could elaborate more on how to address our: This in order to start a constructive conversation. This is the first article on a very painful issue that has helped me see things from a different perspective.
So my boyfriend can talk to all the girls he wants yet when i talk to one guy as a friend he goes crazy and starts yelling and punching walls and he calls me a whore what should I do? I agree with SingleMama. That type of reaction is not healthy and always escalates. Hello all, my biggest fear currently is not to have another failed relationship. The man I am with showed recently that he can flirt with someone and even take it a step further invite her to cook for her. He admitted that he has complex and he needs to flirt with others.
After some other things that happened in between for the past couple of months I feel unhappy and sad whenever I see smth. With all this being said I really need to hear different points of views.. That said, people are very complicated and what happens to them and how they respond is like a chemical reaction. Sometimes things work out.
People can and do change. My ex who I recently broke up with was exactly like that. We had great connection in every way and I know he loved me deeply. I am not only attractive, but also intelligent and caring. He used to stare at every attactive woman that walked by and made comments and he was excessively flirtatious with other women. I never had any problem with any of that as I never felt threatened. The real issue emerged when we started going to a gym class a year ago which was taught by a very hot trainer.
He not only just flirted with her but also went out of his way to impress her, to an extent that everyone else, including the trainer, thought he may be interested in her. I was in the same class and everything happened just right in front of me.
I talked to him multiple times in the past 10 months. All guys are like that. I decided that I had enough and left, which was very devastating to him. I knew he loved me and I loved him too. I knew he would commit to me and never leave me for anyone else. I knew exactly why he did what he did. Despite being a extra confident, sucessful and charming, deep down he was fragile and insecure. I knew it the first day we were together. I thought I would be emotionally strong enough to heal his self-esteem.
I tried but there was just too much suffering and struggling. But a relationship with a mentally immature man who put his needs before yours is extremely painful. I deserve to be loved, cared about and respected. Does anyone think maybe this guy who flirts online just has mommy issues?
Can all problems be relsoved? This really helped me a lot!! My boyfriend flirts with women on social media and chats with a woman on Whatsapp. I knew he was this type of guy before we got together. I will do my best to understand him and not take it personally. He has assured to me that he will not cross the boundary, But I m slightly insecure.
I feel awkward when he flirts with other girls. Plz help me anyone plzz!! How do you not take it personally? It seems the only option is to stay and accept it or leave? Good question — I will respond to this as concisely as I can, but my response has a few layers so please read the entire thing before drawing any conclusions….
If you are going to remain participating in the relationship, then yes, the only sane option is to internally accept what the other person is doing… without taking it personally, without reacting to it, without counterattacking.
The key words above being: This is for you. Conflict breeds more conflict. They always see each other as on the same time and, when in conflict, they approach the conversation with compassion and never lose sight of their partnership. This is not the norm in society.
Some people grew up in loving households that were great at handling conflict… but the majority of people need to learn how to handle conflict effectively. Deservingness has nothing to do with it. The idea of it is rooted in conflict-thinking and fear-based thinking.
At this point in my life, personally, I am only interested in having partners in my life. Not in a mean way… just a natural, effortless, unconcerned way of letting go. When I learned to accept people as they are no matter how close or far they are from me , it really opened up a whole new experience of life to me.
Conflict and drama wastes so much time and mental energy with no reward and a high cost. Letting go of conflict allowed me to see people far more clearly and, as a result, I have made far better choices in who I allow to be around me in my life.
My observation is that once these people learned to accept others, they became much happier and their social situations became much happier. Many of their relationships transmuted into much deeper, much happier, much more meaningful relationships.
However, other relationships of theirs dissolved without drama, strain or heartbreak… once the conflict ended, it was as if the two people realized that, without conflict, there was nothing there for them anymore and they moved on. This turned out to be a long post after all, but it boils down to one point: In relationship, it always involves you as part of the equation. That is where you have power in your relationships. Instead of getting sucked into conflict, allow yourself to lean back and quietly observe.
Allow there to be space around your interactions and intelligence, clarity and wisdom will effortlessly become available to you. What you do next will have power and effectiveness from that place, so long as you continue to stay conscious and not get sucked into conflict.
I have a question. My boyfriend and I met overseas due to the military. We started to date and when I came back stateside he started to flirt with his female friend. Who I had a bad feeling about in the first place. He would not kick her out of his life. But would ask me to kick some people out of mine. I did nothing with anyone. I got over it not really and we started to date again. However this is now when I found out when I left the base overseas to come back stateside he was flirting with that female friend.
He cheated, to me flirting with another person intentionally is cheating. His mom and him want me to give him a second chance.
However I am scared. I was previously married and still going through a divorce and have major trust issues. Should I forgive my boyfriend and let him go? He cried and said he changed this second time and hasnt done anything. But I just dont know if he really means it and if I can trust him. As a soon to be 47 year old woman, two years out of my 25 year relationship with my ex husband divorced , and with my experiences with him over the years, I have to agree with most of what Eric says in this article.
I have read so many articles lately and this one gave me the most articulate insight into common male behaviour. I will try to give a brief synopsis of my experience…I married a divorced man who cheated on his ex-wife and had a reputation of being a bit of a womanizer. YES, I chose him despite it all cause he told me all about his past and wanted to become a better person through his bad experience.
I fell for him hard as a college freshman. He was a great person and still is to this day and life was really good for many years. He is kind, volunteers, would help anyone, etc. I talked to him briefly about it but passed it off since there was no major concern to address. He was not cheating. Move ahead 15 years or so…he now has a cellphone which is glued to him I mean, who needs to take it to the bathroom?
Internet is popular as is his need to watch easily accessible porn on a regular basis and masturbate while I am at home in another part of the house. The texts are incoming often, notifications are turned off and he needs to then retreat to the basement rec room for hours while I remain upstairs in my office completing my work.
Years roll by and pretty soon I was in a very unhappy marriage. He starts to stay out late, going to meetings when I find out there are none, opens a facebook and multiple email accounts and my insecurities are at a high level. He was doing everything from arranging meetings with women and men , watching and downloading gay porn online, hooking up with old gfs, sending graphic pics of his body and receiving from others. I saved everything I read and confronted him.
I then wanted to help him and possibly save our marriage. He was not up to doing any work. I could not have given him any more than I did, emotionally, physically, financially, etc. I know he loved me, but he grew to love his carefree life more. Too much is available and temptations are high! When my marriage was shaky, even I opened a facebook account and got a boost talking to ex bfs and displaying attractive pics.
I needed emotional stimulation and communication when it had become absent in my marriage. My ex now has a steady gf and i know he is still involved in the same bad behaviour as before. Sad that it was easier to walk out and start over with someone knew than stay and try to face his disturbing behaviour. I am moving on slowly and have been with an amazing new bf for a year. He has been separated 4 years and has a young son.
He and I hooked up and he was so open about his desire for a modern woman like myself. We talked so much about infidelity which his ex did to him , I am invested and we are talking of a future, house, moving to the same town, etc…we spend every 2nd weekend together, I love his son, sex is awesome….. He was saying that it was too bad she was with this other guy and he was inviting her to his place for the night as they could have the place to themselves!!
He claimed his went with family members when we talked about his night. I am trying to be logical. That woman did not go home with him. There were no other messages and this was from a month ago. I tell myself, nothing happened. I talked to him about not sure why I am feeling insecure lately to see what he would say. He says we are good and I am the only one worried about us, he is not.
I do not want to be a fool here. It is so damaging!! If only men could stop this kind of behaviour!!! They have no idea how much it affects the very core of a woman! I love this man but I am so scared…. I have been reading articles online about this topic and am always interested in hearing a mans perspective. Some of this makes sense to me, I get it: But the problem is dishonesty.
I told him I could handle a lot of life challenges, but that personally for me, infidelity of any sort was unacceptable. Shortly thereafter, I used his phone, and there was a text from another woman. I looked again, and there were so many it made me physically ill.
Suggestive talk, photos and even discussions of meetings. Pages and pages, basically: I confronted him, and again he lied to me. Then was angry at me. This continued for 6 months until I moved out. I was empathetic and understanding, but my self esteem took a crushing blow. Hi, my name is Joe. I really like you and would love a relationship, but full disclosure: I will always flirt, text, possibly meet, send and receive sexy talk and pictures with other women.
Would you like to be my girlfriend? THAT would be honest. Same as when you feel down and someone smiled at you and said you are beautiful — it would brighten up your day. Of course it looks like attention seeking, because I actually was attention seeking, in a good way, to feel better about myself and my insecurities. It is not a healthy way he is doing it either. We were not okay for a while now and I felt like something is going on, he is always on his phone, but text me only once a day, he has all these women messaging him online flirting who he calls his friends.
He tried to make up with me and we spoke today he agreed he should not spoke to them in this way, all the kisses and loving stuff was not necessary. And as you said in this article, we tend to love how we want to be loved, so the love I showed him was by these things that I crave for; time, presents, cuddles, long talks, always was there for him and supported him.
But he mention he needed something else, so I started saying it now every time we talk, thinking I provided him with what is missing. I asked him so many more times if he misses something else, what else could I do to him, never said anything else!
He said nothing is wrong except I go mental over little things like that and are a jealous type. Guess my question is what shall I do now? I said I can try to forgive him, that we need to work things out and wanted to know what he need from me, but he is not proving those answers! Now he is not willing to tell me this and he rather just ignores everything and pretend we are happy. Now I am not even sure what he does with his close girl friends when he meets them either?
I know in that his friend circle one girl slept with a guy and now she has a boyfriend, but that guy is still trying on with her, he told this to me himself! And they are like a bunch of people, always together with their special bonds; my boyfriend, two other guys and three other girls.
One of the guys trying with one of the girls, other has a gf so he always brings her around. But when I tried to ask my boyfriend to invite me to their hangouts he refused as I talk not nice about them, why would he invited me.
I could have said something to them but I rather suggested meeting them and giving them a chance to change my opinion, but he basically hides me from his friends and he tells them stuff like I am very insecure, crazy and have unreasonable jealousy for them! We are not teenager either, I am nearly 25, he is nearly 29, we have been together for 5 years, with one year break in between.
He never introduced me to her either, also because of the same reasons. He spoke bad things about me to her too. My worries are not unreasonable.
Please read the last of your paragraphs again and you will know what to do. And you are not allowed to even have a friendly conversation with other men. He is not just a bad boyfriend, he is your enemy. Look, I had a similar situation when I was 22 with my ex, Not only is he giving an ego boost to his co-workers by putting your relationship and you down by flirting , but he is also describing you as crazy to them.
He can not act more maliciously towards you if he could. I wish I could chat with you to explain you similar situations that I went through with my ex. Anway, I would run from him as fast as I can. He will completely ruin your self-confidence and sanity. Eventually, you will become crazy as he is already calling you.
He might want to destabilise you. But whatever the case is, run. Lol omg i wonder if this woman is smart enough to know she just completely embarrassed herself…what an idiot. The man is insecure. Why even put up with it? I feel no man is insecure.
He is enjoying his life. Men do exactly what they feel. Nothing matters to them. This is the best clarification I have ever gotten. Thanks for sharing your story.
Thank you for sharing that it is not ok to do. Seems like everyone is justifying being directed in a relationship.
That the problem is our insecurity. I think the only problem is that we keep allowing it to happen. I feel this is a little biased. I understand I may not be filling all his needs but he needs to express that to me as much as I need to express my feelings of hurt from what he has done. It takes two to work on the problem. I should not have to cater to him nor should he to me. This is a partnership not a dictatorship.
That guy needs a swift kick in the ace. What happened to faithful men one guy loving one girl end of story type deal!!!! Lady I hope you find a man who will only looking at you for the rest of his life.
I basically always try to help or do anything for him.. This has been most helpful. Please tour and give speeches on this subject matter. I am sure Oprah will endorse you. Hii…m 23 yrs old. We are in LDR. What to do i dont understand now.
Hi Yashita , i am 31 I was also on a LDR with same named girl , i was accused and left away with a same reason, i knew her from past eight years. Please try to find if he is really flirting romantic versus if he is trying socialize , if he is just talking to some other person doesnot mean that he is dumping you and he is not in love with you. Seriouly touch you heart and tell me that you havent spoken to any other guy other than him , even if it is with out any intention?
So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. I know that he is NOT cheating. The thing is— all these women want him. I agree whole heartedly with this article. My question is this…. I am OK with him texting other women but he refuses to sexy text me. How do I encourage him to be flirtatious with me in texts or why might he not want to do this with me? I guess I feel left out of this in his life. We have been together for about nine months.
He gets irritated when I try to sexy text him yet he is having these kind of conversations with other woman.
I hope you are not that empty-headed now. Sorry to say this, but what you wrote sounds completely unintelligent. So are we supposed to overlook the way their actions hurt us, by hitting on other girls , for the sake of understanding them? While I agree that men are trying to fill a void and there actions are a result of underlying feelings, needs, etc. It sounds like ignoring how you feel is the equivalent of releasing your partner of any and all responsibility for their actions.
They should be held accountable considering we are our choices. I think it should be a combination of both. Our partners should be held accountable for their actions and if they messed up, they should make it right.
But I also agree that the reason behind why our partner acted in that way should be addressed as well. Hi I need some advice about my relationship with my boyfriend , we have been dating for over 18 months and are both divorced with children from previous marriages.
I know that he is into porn as am I and I have no issues with this. Been dating the same guy going into 3 yrs. In doing so I noticed some social media and dating site conversations with other women. So me being probing I continued to look into the emails weekly. I finally confronted him about, expressing how disrespectful I felt he was being. His argument was I invaded his privacy. I owned up to it and apologize. He stated it meant nothing and it was just conversation.
As time has moved on his habits of cell phone calls, text and social media etc increased. So I started going back looking into what he was doing. I have found several occasions where there is much inappropriate conversation as well as a date and propersistions for meeting. Have confronted again, still NO change or stopping! Just a heated argument. Well this sent me over the edge and I shut down, stopped communicating with him, and told him we needed a break!
And why does he feel like he is doing nothing wrong. For everything that is hidden will eventually be brought into the open, and every secret will be brought to light. I been with my boyfriend for two years.. I am 21 yrs old and he is The main thing I hate when he flirts with other females is that he tells them that he still has feelings for them but he is telling this to his supposedly friends..
I know that he was never with these girls.. Why would he tell them that,if never been with them? I did talked to him about it why the heck are you flirting with these girls and he said to let stress out.. I told him to respect me and to stop flirting but of course he has not stopped.. The other day I found a piece of paper in his pants with a girls phone number and asked him calmly what is this and he said that she is just a friend and that the reason why he got her phone number was because she was a cool person and has cool curly hair..
I think that was bullshit why? Another thing to is that when we go out to eat or go to the store he checks out girls and later on I find out he adds those exact girls on Facebook and Instagram.. I told him that to stop checking out girls because that is being disrespectful to me and few weeks ago he added a girl on Instagram; the girl he added was a girl he kept staring when we went to go out to eat at a restaurant and I of course I got upset and told him to unfollow her and he did unfollow her..
Why was he out so late if he had to go to work the next day? Another thing to is that one day he told me he was going out with his family to go eat and I asked his mom and she said that was not true then another day he told me he had to go to his grandpas house because his grandpa was not feeling good and ask my boyfriends mom if her dad was okay and she yes and I also asked her if my boyfriend went with them to her dads house and she said no that he went out that night..
I think he was going out to hang out with other girls.. He denied being on Facebook but I am not stupid I know why he was awake being on Facebook so late and lying to me that he was going to sleep.. I been living with him for six months.. When he still does.. Help me, I need an advice!!! I hope that this is behind yu now and that you are either single or with someone else.
But what I am going to say refers not only to you but to me in your age and to many women of all ages: The part that stuck out to me was the part where you said you knew what kind of guy he was from the get go.
My boyfriend and I dated long distance for two years. I ended up moving to his state to further our relationship. Two days after I got here I went to get on the computer and his twitter page was pulled up. I found a particularly interesting conversation of him with a girl where he claimed we fought all the time, had nothing in common, and that he was stuck with me because I was pregnant 5 months at this time I was devestated to say the least!
I tried for a day to figure out how to bring it up because to confront him would mean to admit I had indulged my childish side. But he could tell something was wrong and when he asked I told him. I was going to move back home. I do not tolerate lies above all! But now even as our daughter is 3 months old I cant help but not trust him, and Im not as attracted to him as I use to be. No matter what he says. So basically you dont always know what kind of guy your dealing with, some put up fronts and walls.
So me and my boyfriend of three years broke up. I couldnt deal with his lying anymore. He tried to cbver up his lies with more lies.
This hurt me deeply. I asked him why he lies so much nd why he doesnt take me seriously. He said he does, but then he would go right back to kying to ne again. Hed lie about who he was with, where he was, wat he was doing. I realized he didnt have interest in me anymore wen he started to add naked girls on his IG and random chicks on his FB.
I cried , screamed, sat him down and talked to him… basically anything i coyld possibly do to make him see how much it hurt me to see that stuff. Then one day i find out hes talking to one of his sisters friends behind my back and he was going on escorts site. That hurt me more… i asked why doesnt he love me, why myst he do that and all i gotten was a laugh in the face.
I guess i wasnt the one for him. Therefre hes not the one for me. It hurts bc i spent three years with someone who can just throw me away and blame me for everything. What do i do? This is why, it must be over: You would not give a misbehaving 5 year old an ice cream cone every time the child acts poorly would you? This guy straight up acts like a 5 year old and you should not reward him any longer. My best advice for you: Perhaps, if it helps you can decide to nickname this person that used to mean something and no longer means anything.
Whatever it takes to want to puke when you think of this person and wish you could have someone burn the memories out of your soul into oblivion. Until this person is nothing inside you any more.
Why do you still have feelings for this person? Because you are highly invested, emotionally especially. Your feelings are what they are. They are not likely to change.
The important thing is, recognize, you can feel that way about others. So many before you, and so many after you have and will be where you stand now. Also, I recommend a period of up to 3 months per year you dated of possibly staying single. Discover or rediscover your independence. This statement is VERY important. It is not saying that. What it IS saying is, there is something you can choose to do moving forward to prevent similar scenarios: This may feel impossible, but it is NOT.
It takes a few things: Knowing what you want being one of them and then accepting nothing less. I hope this helps and even if not I hope it gives you some perspective to work with. You can do it. Become a strong independent woman that other women look up to and men drool lining up to be with you and you will have a world of suitors to replace this chump-change with. I have to hurry to meet people and no time to proofread this, so I ask you: I read your reply every time i start to pity myself.
Then after i read it i realize it not my fault but his own. Hes mentaly still a child and his choices are his choices alone. I really appreciate the support. I thought my world was caving until I gave into desperate measures to find out how to deal with this because I do love this boy too much to flush everything down the drain. Thank you for a raw, unromantic, non sugar coated answer.
I understand now not to blame myself or blow up something that was most likely nothing compared to what we have. You saved an awesome relationship for real. Hi Eric, I see my relation in this topic. I know he has an obsession with huge breasts, blondes, blue eyes, pale skin. In his teens he had a very made case of acne and shut himself out from the world in shame of his skin. I know that has affected him as a person.
Conversations with women he long time ago met on Badoo and started talking too now. I love him and after my pain I saw this from the perspective that he needs help. I tell him how attractive he is, beautiful, hard working and sexually desire him.
All this because I think so, but I also do it extra for him to feel a little better. If we move to a town he has contact with someone, what a shame. I have him time to see what this is doing to our relation and he told me he blocked everyone he was talking to.
Yet ofcooooourse this is a bit silly I see him commenting girls pictures with hearts and telling them how beautiful they are and asking for their numbers, kiks. And I asked why he would do that after our fight. And we would be back in the same old and I would honestly change my ticket and fly back home over the Atlantic and feel so frustrated and sad.
Hi im dating a guy who is much younger than me woman keeps posting pictures of him on social media saying that they are with him so i confront him about it cause i was really upset so he said hes not with them they jus like posting pics of him so i then said well you need to control what people post cause its affecting me he then said he cant control what these girls post on there profile.
My question is what should i do about this? Never allow someone to treat you like a backburner fallback. Hello, I am a 22 year old women dating a 27 year old man. I truthfully dont like this article one bit. Its just not fair for us women to have to deal with a person who has a void they cant seem to fill.
My boyfriend just last night told me he misses being promiscuous. I juat dnt kno what to do.. I feel like a fool, i also feel like i wasted three years of my lie with someone whos not taking me seriously.
What should i do? He sounds bored based on what you said. Not your fault nor his. People get bored sometimes. The only way it will work out is if you both want it to. Usually, a man should say directly what he wants and if he tells you that then he means it. Most of the elements, to me, are irrelevant..
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